I don’t think living/being poly is as exhausting as keeping up other relationships. It is more exhausting to lie and to hide when you are cheating. Cause you create a mask and by that causing a distance to your partner.
Our society has a big focus on momogamous romantic relationship. Family, friends, other relationships variants… “not that desirable”. Even i, a monogamous, find that… exhausting. My family always fights with each other, my friends are busy working. Who is left to connect to?
I love my boyfriend. But i often wish for more connection with other people (non romantic and non sexual). Just hanging out, sharing thoughts and emotions. Without being afraid of vurnability. But that means to make time for friends, to stop having a grugde with the family.
Every relationship is exhausting, but the connection it’s worth the effort.
> but I often wish for more connection with other people
The fact that that’s not ok in your relationship sounds pretty bizarre to me. I am in a monogamous relationship, and I have both male and female friends. My gf also has both male and female friends. When she wants to go have some personal time with her friends, I’m supportive of that.
I’m likely reading too much into this, so I’ll apologize in advance, but not being ok with your significant other spending quality time with people they care about seems jealous and insecure to me.
EDIT: My reading comprehension is apparently trash tier.
I am not taking it offencive. But how did you read that into it? That my SO doesn’t want me to have friends? That’s not nice for a stranger to assume and to analyse.
My best friend and i are working 10 Minutes apart. But she doesn’t have time to even go out and eat. So we hang out on discord every few weeks. I don’t like that very much, but since corona friendships just are this way. My country doesn’t value friendship that much so we don’t put in the work. And That’s pretty sad, but cause everyone is doing that it’s hatd to break that circle.
I don’t think living/being poly is as exhausting as keeping up other relationships. It is more exhausting to lie and to hide when you are cheating. Cause you create a mask and by that causing a distance to your partner.
Our society has a big focus on momogamous romantic relationship. Family, friends, other relationships variants… “not that desirable”. Even i, a monogamous, find that… exhausting. My family always fights with each other, my friends are busy working. Who is left to connect to?
I love my boyfriend. But i often wish for more connection with other people (non romantic and non sexual). Just hanging out, sharing thoughts and emotions. Without being afraid of vurnability. But that means to make time for friends, to stop having a grugde with the family.
Every relationship is exhausting, but the connection it’s worth the effort.
> but I often wish for more connection with other people
The fact that that’s not ok in your relationship sounds pretty bizarre to me. I am in a monogamous relationship, and I have both male and female friends. My gf also has both male and female friends. When she wants to go have some personal time with her friends, I’m supportive of that.I’m likely reading too much into this, so I’ll apologize in advance, but not being ok with your significant other spending quality time with people they care about seems jealous and insecure to me.EDIT: My reading comprehension is apparently trash tier.
I am not taking it offencive. But how did you read that into it? That my SO doesn’t want me to have friends? That’s not nice for a stranger to assume and to analyse.
My best friend and i are working 10 Minutes apart. But she doesn’t have time to even go out and eat. So we hang out on discord every few weeks. I don’t like that very much, but since corona friendships just are this way. My country doesn’t value friendship that much so we don’t put in the work. And That’s pretty sad, but cause everyone is doing that it’s hatd to break that circle.
Ah, I see. Yeah, I thought I was misreading it, thanks for the clarification.
I have felt a similar thing with friends drifting apart, although in my case I think it has more to do with age and being busy than corona.