I used to think that is absurd too. Then i got older and a lot of my frieds got married or in serious relationships and then most of them disappeared. My thought was always that they just found new friends or whatever, in reality they just don’t have time besides relationships and children and work.
My best friend from 10+ years ago just came over, i haven’t seen him in 3 years or so. He kept telling me that we always have such a good time and he wants to come over more and drink coffee and talk. All while looking at his watch saying things like: ooof i gotta go soon, my girlfriend is gonna be pissed. When he left he said: we should do that soon, he can’t wait. The same thing he said 3 years ago. We used to live together and go on vacation together. We pretty much shared the same interests. It happens super fast.
I used to think that is absurd too. Then i got older and a lot of my frieds got married or in serious relationships and then most of them disappeared. My thought was always that they just found new friends or whatever, in reality they just don’t have time besides relationships and children and work.
My best friend from 10+ years ago just came over, i haven’t seen him in 3 years or so. He kept telling me that we always have such a good time and he wants to come over more and drink coffee and talk. All while looking at his watch saying things like: ooof i gotta go soon, my girlfriend is gonna be pissed. When he left he said: we should do that soon, he can’t wait. The same thing he said 3 years ago. We used to live together and go on vacation together. We pretty much shared the same interests. It happens super fast.
But, none of this points to male friendships being considered abnormal, which is what a call for normalization means to me.
Male friendships are less common than they used to be, at least anecdotally, but they’re still socially acceptable, AKA “normal”.
Normalization means that to you because that’s what normalization means.