You’re right in that one interaction is not going to fix an asshole, but perhaps if there were actual efforts being made in society to keep men like that in check, we’d see their prevalence decrease. As is, they’re allowed to exist nearly completely unchecked (and often thrive, in fact), and so I feel the need to be one of the few people to “check” them.
Anyone else coming up to me who’s making it clear they’re just trying to fuck me can eat a dick for all I care. Do that in a place where it’s appropriate, not when I’m out having fun with friends, or god forbid literally on a date with another woman. Want to flirt with me anyway? Well you’ll have much better luck doing it in a way that isn’t sexualizing me. Compliment how I did my hair that day, how my outfit comes together, or something I did that you feel is commendable (and don’t give off that “I really wanna fuck you so I’m gonna compliment you until you say you like me back” body language while doing it; that’s not much better). Or y’know, just be friendly and polite and start a normal conversation with me and get to know me. You’ll get a nice response with warmth and friendliness (unless I’m in a bad mood or in a rush, but in that case it’s really more of a “sorry, I don’t have time to talk right now” kinda thing). If I can tell you’re flirting, I’ll politely let you down by saying I’m not interested in men. Call my ass big and allude to how much that turns you on and you’ll get a stone cold bitch who wants nothing to do with you.
You’re right in that one interaction is not going to fix an asshole, but perhaps if there were actual efforts being made in society to keep men like that in check, we’d see their prevalence decrease. As is, they’re allowed to exist nearly completely unchecked (and often thrive, in fact), and so I feel the need to be one of the few people to “check” them.
Anyone else coming up to me who’s making it clear they’re just trying to fuck me can eat a dick for all I care. Do that in a place where it’s appropriate, not when I’m out having fun with friends, or god forbid literally on a date with another woman. Want to flirt with me anyway? Well you’ll have much better luck doing it in a way that isn’t sexualizing me. Compliment how I did my hair that day, how my outfit comes together, or something I did that you feel is commendable (and don’t give off that “I really wanna fuck you so I’m gonna compliment you until you say you like me back” body language while doing it; that’s not much better). Or y’know, just be friendly and polite and start a normal conversation with me and get to know me. You’ll get a nice response with warmth and friendliness (unless I’m in a bad mood or in a rush, but in that case it’s really more of a “sorry, I don’t have time to talk right now” kinda thing). If I can tell you’re flirting, I’ll politely let you down by saying I’m not interested in men. Call my ass big and allude to how much that turns you on and you’ll get a stone cold bitch who wants nothing to do with you.