• MrShankles@reddthat.com
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    6 hours ago

    I find the entire concept of “childless” or “childed” surreal

    We would love to have kids. We can’t (easily or realistically). So gloating about having free time because no kids, or how amazing it is to be a parent… just seems, insincere sometimes. Idk, maybe it’s a little bitterness talking and I should just let people have fun with their memes. I guess I just find gloating about having or not having children to be weird, when for some people it’s not really a choice

    By no means am I trying to say that you’re gloating about anything, I thought your comment was sweet. I was just adding a third perspective to a random comment

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      5 hours ago

      That’s fair, and I’m sorry to hear that’s your situation. I find it incredibly unfair we live in a world mixed with infertility and unwanted pregnancies.

      I agree on behalf of parents we should be careful about what we drop casually. It’s like the whole, “So when are you going to have kids?” question everyone gets from the previous generation. This stuff is coming from a good place, but I think in the future it’ll be avoided, and reflected upon as very crass.

      One thing I’ll say is that as a parent who often fantasizes about the “other path”, there’s a catharsis in memes like this one. I want to live vicariously through adults without children. I know this may not help from where you’re coming from, but just stating it in the spirit of increased understanding.