I’ve found myself having to use something like “try to treat people how they want to be treated” as a perspective. Being autistic I’ve learned the hard way what I want is usually very different from what most people around me want, which means I can’t really rely on myself on these matters. It’s easy to think through ourselves, but considering others through ourselves doesn’t always end up being the best course of action. Though I guess just being compassionate gets you pretty far either way