• Victor@lemmy.world
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    22 hours ago

    That does sound curious. Makes me curious of the context as well. They sound pretty level headed from the comments here, so I’m hoping it’s a misunderstanding.

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      19 hours ago

      The context was it was a shitpost about a lesbian who’s never been kissed, and no one knew OP’s gender, so Velma was assuming that while trying to manufacture outrage on a shitpost.

      Meanwhile Tanis was basically self-identifying as “bitches,” and Velma seemingly contradicted her own stance that it might be okay for women to “reclaim the slur” by shaming Tanis for being okay with using the term.

      It was pretty convoluted, but ultimately there seemed to be no point and it gave the vibe that Velma was just looking for a moral pedestal to grandstand on…

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        17 hours ago

        Thanks for that seemingly objective explanation.

        Overall the person seems level headed and sincere in her feminist beliefs so I’m gonna give them the benefit of the doubt that it was either a misunderstanding or a temporary lapse in judgement. I know I’ve been misunderstood before on here, and had temporary lapses in my own judgement.

        Some people mean well but are very quick to jump to confrontational mode, and assume the worst interpretation in what everyone says. I know a person like that. It can be very exhausting talking with them because you have to watch your words all the time, even when we share the same value framework… They just want to crush every single grain of the patriarchy so badly, and I get it. But sometimes it can get in the way of just normal conversation and banter.

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        17 hours ago

        It doesn’t seem like a troll account to me. Seems like she’s just a very vocal feminist, strongly opinionated, and admittedly a confrontational person. But level headed and classy, still. They seem to just absorb insults into some kind of void. Quite impressive, actually. I didn’t scroll very far into their comments, but a few pages gave me these impressions.

        I got no issues, no qualms.