• sabreW4K3@lazysoci.alOP
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    If you tell me what general self hosted community you’re not subscribed to, I’ll confine my posts to there so that they don’t bother you.

    EDIT: Someone was kind enough to explain that sometimes no matter how pure your intentions, it’s how things are perceived that matters.

    Ultimately I wanted to avoid confrontation and in doing so, it was easy to read my comment as being snarky or confrontational and violence begets violence.

    I honestly just wanted to post updates in a community whereby they may help people by keeping them informed. Alas, things escalated and one wrong step and all subsequent steps will be wrong too. Hence me trying to explain and everyone feeling I was being unreasonable.

    I think someone even said they were blocking me in what in my head amounted to me saying hey, take the playground and keep my ball and I’ll go and play somewhere else.

    I had a long weekend and just wanted to chill and I think people interpreted that as me being dismissive.

    I wholeheartedly believe that the beauty of Lemmy is that there are different flavours like desktop environments that do things differently. I didn’t feel it was appropriate for me to try and say this or any community I didn’t create should do things my way and so was happy to hop around until I found a good fit. In hindsight, I could’ve and should’ve explained that.

    Apologies for bringing the community into disrepute.

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      Don’t think it was meant the way you interpreted it. A little tagline/description just adds a lot of value to a post. Something like this:

      Navidrome is an open source web-based music collection server and streamer. It gives you freedom to listen to your music collection from any browser or mobile device. It’s like your personal Spotify!

      (taken directly from the repo) or

      [Project] Navidrome music collection Server

      Could you add one?

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        I feel that self-hosted communities are full of smart and capable people with the ability to click a link. That said, If I degraded the user experience of the community subscribers I’m happy to remove myself. There are more than enough general self hosted communities on Lemmy, each of them fit different groups to different degrees. If it’s so important to the members of this community to post descriptions, I’m happy to post in a community where it won’t impact the enjoyment of members.

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          Hey there!, No need to take it personally. Thanks for the post, I happen to know what navidrome is and found this post helpful.

          A tag would be helpful for others, not required but I think the feedback came from a good place.

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          I think all of the communities would rather have something more than just a bare link. I’m not sure why you’re responding with such indignation, to be honest, it was a perfectly reasonable suggestion, politely made.

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                This feels like such a confrontational question. I’m irrelevant in the grand scheme of things. I’m sure other people will post the releases in a manner that meet the very reasonable expectations.

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          I don’t think you are causing any problems by not posting a small description of the project.

          Sounds like you just don’t want to, why not just say that?

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            Because I was exasperated and happy to remove myself.

            For months I was posting updates over at Lemmy World, then someone one day decided they needed descriptions. So after some arguing back and forth, I decided to remove myself. I start posting here and rather than argue or get into a back and forth, I decide to ask for somewhere else. Little did I know that by trying to back out away from the issue, I was inadvertently causing more issues. I feel like Jackie Chan in one of his old films whereby he tries to back away from a fight and it’s taken as an insult by the folk in the restaurant and erupts into a massive fight.

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              I am sorry others didn’t hear you. I saw your edit and I think it makes sense. I hope you feel better soon. Emotions are a wild ride. I know from experience.

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              Dear OP, this whole conversation makes me think of the bullying towards open source developers, which can be seen on and off since years. Let me also share what I have seen on Mastodon : Unlike on Lemmy, Mastodon has had support for ALT text descriptions for uploaded images for some time. Several people have been complaining when people do not add such ALT text, and even bots were made, that you could choose to follow, for people to have themselves reminded that they forgot to add ALT to an image. What I have seen several times is that people were helpful by responding and giving an ALT suggestion to the OP. That would be complaining and helping in one. Here in this post conversation several people have asked OP for descriptions and then some tension came up. None of the people complaining took some time to add a description themselves and appear to want to make the OP do extra work.And I understand that the OP is not obliged to do that extra work. Regardless of all this I think that a nice solution here would be if OP or someone else creates a new Lemmy community with a name like e.g. selfhosted_software_releases (For open source software releases there is a Lemmy community like that. Can’t be bothered to search for the name now) which is only for software releases for self hosting. Then this and other selfhosted Lemmy community can have the announcement of that new selfhosted_software_releases Lemmy community as a pinned post or in the sidebar. The advantages of that :

              • OP and others will not need to add descriptions
              • Interested people can quickly see when there’s been new releases
              • Others can have a peek at software names they never heard of before and dive into the details
              • Selfhosted communities will go back to peace mode ;-)
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      I use Navidrome myself, and I still think it would be nice for people to know a little bit about the software in an update announcement post.

      Seems like a very reasonable request, I don’t grok the vitriol in your response.

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        Good afternoon. Vitriol? I’m not sure how you interpreted my post, but my intention was that in order to preserve the user experience of the person making the request, I would post elsewhere. That’s a concession I’m happy to make.

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          You know what you sounded like.

          It’s a small text addition for context, not a big ask. Most of these upgrade posts in this community have people asking the same thing, so they can discover new software.

          Ultimately, though, it’s your choice.

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            I’m genuinely unsure in which way I could possibly sound nicer telling someone that I’m willing to go anywhere where something that they don’t like doesn’t effect them?

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              On the off chance that you truly don’t understand:

              The nice thing to do would be to accept the feedback and add a short description. It’s confusing to others why you are staunchly opposed to performing that small courtesy, and instead jump to never posting here again.

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                Me: does something

                Someone: hey, do that another way

                Me: If you tell me where you won’t see it, I’ll go do it my way there as I like doing things my way

                Someone else: You’re being rude

                Me: I’m just saying I’ll go somewhere else

                You: The nice thing to do would be forced labour

                Me:

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                  You: [ copy pastes link ]

                  Others: Hey, can you also tell us what that link points towards?

                  You: wHaT iS tHiS, a BoLsHeViK LaBoR CaMp?

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                  Congrats on all the labor you saved.

                  If you think folks here are uniquely unreasonable you could try lemmy.world/c/selfhosted .

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                    Just for the record, I’ve not said that anyone is being unreasonable. In fact I’ve not criticised anyone. If anything, I’m agreeing that the request is reasonable. I’m not trying to change to force it. I’m literally just trying to extract myself from a situation because peace of mind is a beautiful thing.

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      Heyo, just wanted to say I appreciate the edit.

      Some people see three extra clicks (which is what it took on mobile to get the real description out of GitHub) as a limiter. I actually clicked because I had guessed that with a name like “navidrome” it was something GNSS related, was surprised to see it was about music.

      I’ve been self hosting for going on 7-8y, following various communities on reddit and Lemmy and I learn about new softwares every day. I’ll have to toss this one on my investigation queue.