cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/16157729
Idaho bar celebrates “Heterosexual Awesomeness Month” with free beer for straight men
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/16157729
Idaho bar celebrates “Heterosexual Awesomeness Month” with free beer for straight men
While I don’t disagree with what you said in theory, what’s stopping you from having these conversations? Is there a fear of losing your friends if you talk about these issues? What about your job, house, family, or even your life? These are real fears for a lot of queer people, still to this day, even in places like the UK and USA.
There’s plenty of media out there that discusses non nuclear relationships for straight people. It’s not always mainstream, but it exists. There’s still very little for queer people that doesn’t have to also tell the story of the bigotry and fear we face on the regular.
Please have your discussions, but rather than not having anything against us, have our backs when our rights and our lives are in jeopardy.
That’s what I meant - I do support LGBTQ+ people, that’s a no-brainer, and I welcome LGBTQ+ rights and strictly oppose conservative bills trying to take us back into the stone age.
As per conversations - yes, conversations on many kinds of heterosexual relationships are still complicated, and there is a very high chance to be misunderstood, shunned, shamed or attacked, mostly by the very same conservative crowd that makes life harder for LGBTQ+ people.
Aside from that, culture still imposes certain roles in heterosexual relationships, which leads to many young people thinking there’s something wrong with them for thinking different, which causes a lot of struggle in itself.
I do not mean it as a competition on who is in more trouble. I just say there’s not enough talk about what various struggles heterosexual people might face as well, without trying to take focus away from LGBTQ+ issues.
Attacked for being the “wrong kind of straight couple”? I’m not saying it doesn’t happen but I don’t know that I’ve seen any actual attacks for that. Plenty of people preaching that women should stay home in the kitchen or whatever, but on average, social media alone has tipped that scale, I think.
On that particular scale, there are heterosexual relationships in which women are not just fully emancipated, but actually leading the relationship, serving the role of a main provider etc. Those are often referred to as either female-led relationships (FLR) or gender role reversal.
Women in such relationships are often mistreated and misunderstood, and men are outright harrassed and attacked for their choice to take a “weaker” side, for their “feminity”, they are, at best, seen like a burden, and at worst, seen as a punchbag for “not being a man”. I’ve very much seen both in my culture, and for all I know, in other places there are signs of something similar.
In media, at least from what I’ve seen, such relationships are almost universally portrayed as an unhappy woman and a broken, emasculated, capricious man, as something unhappy and dysfunctional.