One of the admins at lemmy.blahaj.zone asked us to purge a community and all of its users because they thought it was full of child sexual abuse material, aka CSAM, fka kiddy porn. We assured them that we had checked this comm thoroughly and we were satisfied that all of the models on it were of age.

The admin then demanded we purge the comm because they mistook it for CSAM, and claimed that the entire point of the community was to make people think it was CSAM. We vehemently disagreed that that was in fact the point of the community, but they decided to defederate from us anyway. That is of course their choice, but we will not purge our communities or users because someone else makes a mistake of fact, and then lays the responsibility for their mistake at our feet.

If someone made a community intended to fool people into thinking it was kiddy porn, that would be a real problem. If someone of age goes online and pretends – not roleplays, but pretends with intent to deceive – to be a child and makes porn, that is a real problem. Nobody here is doing that.

One of the reasons we run our instance the way that we do is that we want it to be inclusive. We don’t body shame, and we believe that all adults have a right to sexual expression. That means no adult on our instance is too thin, fat, bald, masculine, old, young, cis, gay, etc., to be sexy, and that includes adults that look younger than some people think they should. Everyone has a right to lust and to be lusted after. There’s no way to draw a line that says “you can’t like adult people that look like X” without crossing a line that we will not cross.

EDIT: OK, closing this post to new comments. Everything that needs saying has been said. Link to my convo with the blahaj admin here.

  • parkomin@lemmynsfw.com
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    1 year ago

    the removed themselves from a lot more conversations than simply the adorableporn one.

    i don’t think this is how the fediverse should work, you have a problem with one community, you block the entire instance for all your users.

    From what i understand the blahaj admins had no problems with the other communities here, but the entire instance is blocked there now.

    nsfw content is always an afterthought tho on social media and always gets cut down in some way for the greater platform. that’s why i value the ability to make an account here a lot.

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      1 year ago

      I’m sorry if you though I disagreed with you. I have no interest in the content in question. I don’t personally like it, or agree with it. I also don’t want it banned, blocked, or censored. I’m a middle aged gay guy, and I have most of this instance blocked since I only want to interact with other gay men. Thats literally free speech. Your users can post/say what want, if it offends anyone/they can remove themselves from said content via blocking or reporting.

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      Also, blaha doesn’t allow downvotes because that could discourage people from posting and getting support when needed. So it’s impossible to see how far allies have reported and downvoted the assholes trying to hurt the innocent.