Big Allred fan here! Im not squandering my chance to get Cruz out! <3

Wish he’d fucking stay gone.

Literally every Enlisted member ever.

This is super sad. I’m not a Houston resident, but I heard her speak when she opened for the Women’s Convention in Houston in Fall 2022. Very motivated individual, very optimistic about the fight for equality, and knew how to get a crowd hyped out of their depression. Adored her.

Easily my favorite Adam Sandler movie.

I’m in the military, and whenever one of my Airmen tell me that they’re born in 20-- I always have a moment of “…are you even allowed to be here? Did you lie about your age to get in? Do your parents know where you are?!?”

My husband and I are both here and voting as long as the military forces us to be here. Every election. Local, state, and federal. Blue. Every time.

But fuck, the second my contract says I’m allowed to move, I’m selling my house, fleeing this hellhole ASAP, and will never willingly set foot in this state again. Just saying.

2012 Texas was different than it is today. Not great, but exponentially better. There’s been a distinct decline over the past ~decade.

Bro, honestly, you shouldn’t let a few people arguing about a meme online stop you from respecting the women who are actually in your life.

Door holding for the people behind you is respectful no matter if they’re a man or a woman. I think most people hold the door if they’re paying attention.

But stopping a conversation from going off the rails in a sexist/derogatory manner? Bruh you could be the difference in one woman’s life from her feeling the full relatability to this meme.

I feel this so hard. I fucking see you. I’m very much a extrovert. I enjoy going out and doing things with people MUCH more than I do being at home. I get hype when I get to plan something, whether that’s at my house for a D&D session or out and about around town (or even vacations). I’m also a “more the merrier type”, which means everyone is invited and I’ll genuinely talk to you/make sure no one is left out. I just like people.

But after a certain amount of times being stood-up/flaked on in the final hours, I stop with the invites. I stop asking for people’s opinions on if they want to do things with me. I stop planning. And I just kinda disconnect from people.

I’ve had introverted coworkers and associates tell me “I like to be invited, I just don’t always like to go. But I want to be included.”

But bruh, it hurts my feelings too when I get so excited to hang with everyone and you bail regularly. Clearly at some point I have to accept that I’m just not your cup of tea, and you’re prioritizing other things. That’s okay, but it doesn’t mean I have to accept continuously being knocked down by you because of it.

Imma take a stab in the dark and say that you’re your friend groups “planner” friend as well. It’s really fucking frustrating to try and plan something as simple as a dinner that requires reservations, and people are like “Um. Uh. Maybe I’ll come, idk”, up until the last minute. Or even a headcount for food being served at your house.

Damn. This is a head scratcher!

Roar by Katy Perry?

Uncle Sam moved me here, unfortunately.

As a Texas (transplant), I hate how fucking correct this statement is.

I had a dude who would dress up like Britney Spears, and he went by “Britney Girl-Dale”. I never interacted with him, but I had friends who did who said he was HELLA nice, but always high. Which lead me to defending him anytime my judgemental parents had anything nasty to say.

Unfortunately, last I heard he had “found Jesus” and went massively fundie/evangelical. 😮‍💨

I don’t know why you’re being down voted. Sure, it’s unfortunately been happening for a while, but we’re just supposed to keep quiet about it and let it go?

I’m sorry, putting my face on a naked body that’s not mine is one thing, but I really do fear for the people whose likeness gets used in some degrading/depraved porn and it’s actually believable because it’s AI generated. That is SO much worse/psychologically damaging if they find out about it.

Glad Im not the only one who went “Wait, it’s just fucking water?!”

Dawwwww this is one heckin’ cute dog!

And I’ve always referred to them as “M&M eyes”. I have no idea where I got that from, I’ve just been saying it since I was a child.

Thank you! I wasn’t intending to argue that this sort of thing doesn’t matter at all. I think it’s mad fucked up that his life was ruined (though I hope he’s been able to rebuild since then), and I think he deserves all the support (mental, financial, social), in the world, but I am suspect of the timing of this/the motivation behind bringing it back up in today’s current climate when it wasn’t prefaced with a “So, how can we do better to combat this sort of thing, alleviate the fears of people, and still support victims?” Like, it wasn’t brought up in a conversational sense at all, and that’s what feels odd about it all.

I apologize that it’s taken me this long to respond, I’ve been at work all morning. I would just like to take a moment to agree with you. I DO believe that false allegations should be spoken about more often, and that men SHOULD feel supported to share their fears/concerns/etc about this sort of thing happening. I do think that just by saying “That happens so rarely it doesn’t matter”, that we’re hurting the feminist cause, because it’s just like people saying “Oh, rape abortions only account for 1% of all sought after abortions, so it’s a non-issue”. For the people affected, it’s absolutely a huge issue, even if they’re both technically statistical anomalies.

I think its important to be outraged about false rape allegations, as it not only ruined this young man’s life, and the people’s lives he’s close with, it now sheds a mistrustful eye on true rape victims. However, I do think it is telling that this story has resurfaced today as though it happened yesterday, when it is in fact over a decade old. I think it is telling that it is resurfacing during a time period where women’s rights (not even just to bodily autonomy, but there are people arguing to get rid of no-fault divorce as well, among other things) are such a hot button issue. I think it is telling that it’s resurfacing during a period where we’re seeing a surge in young men subscribing to manosphere style content (I honestly think these young men feel unheard/unsupported in their hopes/dreams/wants/worries/fears/etc, but that opens up a whole other topic around extremist feminism).

Yes, I’m angry that this happened. I’m empathetic. I’d like to think (and I’ll likely search it after this comment) that this young man received multi-millions in compensation, because not only did he lose 6 years of his life to the system, he’s also faced a loss in job and relationship opportunities, and not to mention the emotional and psychological effects of being accused and found guilty of a crime he did not commit.

TL;DR - Yes, we can be angry that this young man was wronged, but we can also be critical and suspicious of how/why this story resurfaced now.

Edit: I looked it up, his name is Brian Banks and he was only awarded $142K by the state of California for this wrongful conviction. That makes me doubly angry on his behalf. In no way does that even begin to try and make things up to him (not that I’m arguing that money fixes everything, but holy fuck, only $142K?!). https://www.hawaiiinnocenceproject.org/brian-banks

As horrendous as this story is (and yes, this man does deserve to get compensation for what he’s been through), I agree.

This feels like the very subversive thing that someone with a nefarious mindset would pull to push vulnerable people more into the “manosphere” type mindset.

It may seem innocuous at first, “OH! It’s just a user sharing a story that factually happened!”

But it’s the pulling up of an old article about an enraging topic while women’s rights are being stripped away/we’re seeing a huge surge of Andrew Tate-style influences being held up by the younger male generation. This type of stuff absolutely normalizes hatred/mistrust of women by the redpill/blackpill fans.