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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • I used to work in the call center of a regional office for a giant company. I got the opportunity to “apprentice” with another department, which basically meant I would shadow the same employee for an hour or two a week for six months and then I could apply for a transfer and they’d hire me preferentially unless I seemed like a fuckup. The department was staffed with 90% former biglaw attorneys who didn’t want to deal with the rat race anymore and located in the main office. I felt like this the first time I showed up in my nice jeans and a fancy-to-me top to this incredible marbled building full of people wearing suits more expensive than my car.

    I got that job, by the way, and less than two years later, it had demoralized me to the point that I left “per mutual agreement” and went back to school to move to an entirely different industry. I did also make enough money in that time to finance a move abroad, including living expenses for three years, visas, bringing my cat with me, and grad school though, so I’m not exactly mad about it in the end.




  • People can be ignorant and even sexist without being manosphere. Neither of those strikes me as super Joe Rogan or Ben Shapiro-ey.

    But yeah, we’re living in two separate worlds, and when a person ignores what half of us experience, it’s no different from a white person saying that black people just need to be polite to the police, the way they are. (As a teenager, I was regrettably that white person. But I’ve grown, and so can others in that situation)








  • This is related to my cat, not my dog, but I really like the question and there’s not a lot of engagement yet. I’m happy to remove it if it’s a sore spot.

    I don’t know if I’m just 100% anthropomorphizing her or if she’s actually very in tune with me, but I’ve noticed that when I go to explain why my cats doing what she’s doing, my explanation actually says more about my emotional state than I’m even always aware of. Like, when I start to think that my cats overwhelmed, I should take a deep breath myself.

    It could just be that we mirror each other and are very in sync, but it could also be that I just read my own motivations into her actions.



  • Yeah, I was at least 2000 words into the wiki thinking that I could be down with the church hating Tolkien nerds, before it became obvious to me that they’re, like, ultra racist. I’m sure there are dog whistles, but they went over my head. This is a pretty descriptive line explaining why varg doesn’t call himself a Nazi anymore:

    Among other things, he did not wish to be associated with anti-Slavic sentiments.