Interesting analysis of perceived motives between interaction environments; thank you.
I am glad for all the discussion in, and response to, this thread.

Kindly; not trying to debate:
Why did Snopes stop posting disclosures (formerly a yearly process), right after the current owners gained control?
If the current owners of Snopes make their money from digital advertising businesses, why would they not leverage the synergy between Snopes and programmatic advertisement to generate further revenue?

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“Didn’t you hear? Congress just passed a bill legalizing murder if you’re rich.”
“No, they didn’t - Oh, my God, they did! Just because it passed the House doesn’t mean the Senate will-”
“Really, Diane?”
“Okay, but the president could still veto-”
“Really, Diane?”
“All right, sure, but the Supreme Court… Okay, I get it.”
“Look, don’t take it so hard. If you wanna do something about it, just make a billion dollars and murder me!”

You & others might be interested in this:
https://insights.sei.cmu.edu/library/field-stripping-a-weapons-system-building-a-trustworthy-computer-video/
and maybe this:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intel_Management_Engine

We were looking into federated+floss MatchGroup alternatives last week, and didn’t find much of anything.
Most compelling was that some people are using matrix spaces to facilitate dating/hookups, but I imagine those spaces have similar pitfalls to Discord “dating”.
Something akin to OkCupid back when it was owned by Humor Rainbow would be pretty popular, imo.