You’re not wrong, though.
It can be easy to put up a front around other people, and hide parts of yourself. Tempting, even. If people don’t know that information about you, they can’t judge you on it.
Let’s say two strong dudes were side by side, one of them acts “tough”, and the other doesn’t care about people knowing about his fascination with antique figurines. I would always think that the second guy is tougher.
I don’t know what happened, but “tough” seems to only mean “following the buff crowd” to some people. “Tough” isn’t just muscle strength. Nearly anyone can pretend that they’re like someone else. It takes a certain kind of self confidence to let yourself be passionate about the things that you love and enjoy around others. It shows mental strength, which I think is a huge part of being “tough”.
In the earlier hypothetical, the latter guy would probably be the one to stand up for what he feels is right, regardless of what he’s told to think. He probably also wouldn’t be as easily swayed by judgemental people, and would probably be less anxious and insecure as a result.
Haha not on your life!
…like getting myself (intentionally) robbed and then shot to the head? I mean, you are not wrong – it’ll surely make me a better person in the end…
…if I survive, that is.
So I’d rather leave it as it is, thank you very much.
Nice whataboutism.
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I don’t get it. I don’t get the equivalence - if that’s what you were going for.
I agree, but I also think there’s too much “vulnerable” nowadays. It’s important to be vulnerable, but it’s also important to be tough, mostly when there’s no big deal. “Some people on the internet are saying bad stuff and it triggered me and now my day is ruined…”
Do you think vulnerable and tough are on opposite ends of a spectrum?
Also the post are talking about real interpersonal interactions with people in your life. The fact that you instantly made the post about culture war bullshit is telling.
Dunno if you’re targeting the emotional impact or drawing the line on interaction style - but being respectful and non-toxic does not cost anything more than the opposite. I certainly prefer interactions without toxic noise that have little to do with the people or topic involved.
Emotional impact.
I too prefer non toxic interactions, but also try to not build and echo chamber.
I don’t think non-toxicity results in echo chambers though. The two are not mutually exclusive. Not even directly related.
Not inherently, but I’ve been in communities where everyone is weirdly positive in the name of being “non-toxic” and it resulted in people generally not voicing dissenting opinions, which is pretty similar to an echo chamber.
I no longer frequent those places because it all felt a bit artificially happy like a kids TV show.
