• echo@lemmy.today
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    13 hours ago

    Both scenarios occur

    True

    I don’t think it’s [not] reasonable to say this “strongly” suggests one in particular.

    Disagree. He had a choice to either hear that she was experience pain/duress or that she’s exaggerating and/or misunderstanding. In either case, if he truly cares about her then he could/should seek to understand, communicate, and (if appropriate) compromise. That he immediately dismissed her and only talked of himself makes it clear that he’s an uncaring narcissist.

    I appreciate that you want to give him the benefit of the doubt. Narcissists depend on this. When they show you who they are, believe them.

    • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
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      5 hours ago

      He had a choice to either hear that she was experience pain/duress or that she’s exaggerating and/or misunderstanding.

      And she had a chance to communicate her frustrations without making an ultimatum.

      That he immediately dismissed her and only talked of himself makes it clear that he’s an uncaring narcissist.

      That she immediately issued an ultimatum instead of trying to open a productive dialogue about it more strongly suggests that she’s the uncaring narcissist. Ultimatums aren’t healthy.