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Cake day: August 16th, 2023

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  • Lots of people suffer far more discrimination for having non standard names. There have been studies showing a name can lose you a job opportunity, and I’ve been discriminated for my name since middle school. My name is Chatoyer, a French name pronounced with a sh sound.

    So I’ve heard shit used instead, I’ve heard people confused by the shorted version sounding like shat, and at one job where they tried to send me to a customer onsite, when he heard my name he yelled "The hell kinda name is that?!"and hung up, losing the company business (good riddance though).

    Get over it. Karen’s have it easy.






  • But… I am clearly out of shape. Not the worst shape, mind you, but obviously not an athlete. Climbing for me, which I do enjoy, but haven’t really done since covid.

    I mostly bike ride for exercise, but don’t think I’m an in shape looking cyclist or anything. It’s an bike, and while I do usually vary between weakest assist and sometimes none, I got nothing on even semiserious cyclists.






  • One of the coworkers quickest to get kinda yelly about his opinions at work was a genx guy (older than me) who had very strong “classical liberal” opinions as well as the typical belief that he was being logical, not emotional, as he raised his voice while talking to us about policies he didn’t agree with. He also had the typical misogynistic view that he was rational while women were emotional. One time he and I were getting a little heated in a shared discord chat and a mutual friend who was the admin muted both of us.

    I told the friend something like “fair, you did try to change the subject and we ignored you, my bad.” The older guy got super pissed someone controller his speech and he left the discord forever.

    I’ve also seen my uncle get butthurt that I tried to meditate a discussion between him and my sister (she requested my help because he and my aunt would just both say their side against her and not let them talk.) I mostly just stopped them from interrupting each other and asked them to let the other person speak, and I did it both to my sister and my aunt and uncle.

    They later complained about being told what to do in their own house.

    While young people can be impulsive and judgy, I find that age does not always fix that. The people it doesn’t fix get entitled and think their age justifies their beliefs and that they’re automatically wiser than you.




  • People often read agendas where they may not be in simple but definitive phrase like that, especially if they seem similar to things people with agendas say.

    For instance, someone might think you’re making a strong anti-abortion statement, including blaming women for wanting to have sex, but your statement doesn’t mention any of that. I could see a "pro-life"anti-abortion person saying that statement as a way of saying a woman should choose to die giving birth rather than getting an abortion, but I could also see it being the exact opposite argument in that if you don’t want to risk your life, get an abortion instead of having the kid.

    In either case, people with opposing opinions may read what they dislike in your comment and downvote it. So it might explain something completely different about human society.


  • You’re either missing the point again, or intentionally asking at what point you can stop acknowledging prior contributions to claim it as your own. Let’s change it from food.

    “At what point can I claim I invented math after it was taught to me?” - as long as it was taught and you didn’t discover it completely on your own, never. The work was built on the work of those that came before.

    “At what point can I claim I invented computer technology without any assistance from any societies, technologies, or ideas from previous people or previous civilizations?” - If at birth you were left on a deserted island, and by yourself survived, created all tech by yourself, then yes. Otherwise, never.

    So while you can say “Apple pie is part of American culture” and be correct, it will also always be true that American culture got parts of its culture from other cultures.






  • I’ve heard some either Australian or British or both that pronounce H as something close to Hayche. Using a similar accent, and making it a bit hard to hear by mumbling or something, Hayche and age can sound similar.

    Hayche is of course made up, but that’s how it feels to me to write it, but I’m no linguist, and I don’t know how to write in pronunciation guides.