Saw some posts about .ml today and thought I’d jump on the bandwagon lol

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    2 hours ago

    I kinda feel like Lemmy has been much more hostile recently. I don’t know if it’s bots or if I just post bad comments, but it makes me want to go back to just being a lurker.

    EDIT: I was waiting for it to happen in this thread. Try to be positive and say something nice about the angry people, get downvotes. Haha. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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      13 hours ago

      It’s not just you. People will wilfully misinterpret what I’m saying to their liking, sometimes accusing me of nonsense. Some others will jump in out of nowhere as if I owe them money. I have some asshole in my notifications right now trying to defend another asshole for some reason. The best part is how I’m the one getting downvoted for defending myself and calling them out on it.

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        This is awkward but… I think you owe me money.

        The whole karma thing is one of the worst inventions in the internet. The whole upvote if you agree downvote if you don’t it’s stupid and should be eliminated, no one cares what you vote, if you have something to add reply, if no keep reading, nod your head up and down or left and right and move on.

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          Oh, I don’t care about the points, I’ll still reply in whatever manner I like anyway. It’s at least some indicator of how your comment comes across to readers. It’s just funny that I win the unpopularity contest for simply defending myself while the other person is spewing bullshit.

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          12 hours ago

          I got 1.6 million karma points in 18 months. Karma rules everything around me, K.R.E.A.M. get the upvotes, comment on my laptop

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      20 hours ago

      The world sucks right now. People on Lemmy are very aware of what’s going on and are rightfully upset and that reflects in general sentiment and interactions.

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        18 hours ago

        Yeah. I get it. I feel that way too. Especially, if you fall into a minority group, it’s a scary time to be.

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      12 hours ago

      I feel like this is mostly the case for (semi-)political discussions

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      17 hours ago

      I said that the same people were bad as this other commenter but I mentioned that maybe instead of hating them, like the bad people do to us, we might want to approach the situation with a little more nuance and uphold empathic viewpoints for everyone not just people who agree with what we agree with and they told me the bad people shouldn’t get any sort of empathy because they do bad things.

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        18 hours ago

        I hope so! I suspect the hostility will pass when American politics becomes less life or death.

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          12 hours ago

          Everything everywhere is becoming them vs us. Red vs blue, north vs south, east vs west, their color vs my color, their party vs my party, their opinion vs our opinion, your region vs my region, your problems vs my problems. Everywhere.

          And we are all losing except the people that have always been winning.

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          18 hours ago

          it’s only gotten worse far as i’v been alive. bar only ever gets lower, not sure how they lower it from trump…alex jones/tucker carlson ticket for 2028, perhaps?

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                  13 hours ago

                  “Not getting a Nazi isn’t an option. But what we can control is whether we get a Strasserist Nazi or a Hitlerite Nazi. Clearly, you have a moral responsibility to support the Strasserist.”

                  (It’s getting harder and harder to do parodies because a lot of people would unironically agree with that.)

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      19 hours ago

      Yeah, people have been getting a bit touchy and on occasion misinterpret an innocuous comment as an attack.

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      23 hours ago

      As a relative newcomer, I’ve felt and read a lot of hostility on Lemmy. Reddit felt smug, but not unfriendly.

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        19 hours ago

        Have you been to any of the history subreddits or the incel ones or the right wing ones? Or just r/all?

        Lol. Reddit is super hateful right now.

        One reason I like lemmy is because people are a lot more friendly here.

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          6 hours ago

          I never used /all. I had a specific set of subreddits I used to browse. I never went to the incel or right wing subreddits. I used to browse AskHistorians occasionally.

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            Askhistorians is objectively the only sane history subreddit.

            The rest are filled with colonial apologists, genocide deniers and nationalists.

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        21 hours ago

        Block early and often is practically the motto of Lemmy. Many people got banned from Reddit for a reason, and then they all came here. People with a conscience also came here too, but there’s definitely a lot of noise amidst the signal.

        And moderation tools here suck, so it’s much less regulated overall, which is somewhat a good thing but then people don’t want to discuss the bad side where people straight-up leave here as a result, as evidenced by e.g. the Monthly Active User counts in decline and also comments in spaces such as r/RedditAlternatives.

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          19 hours ago

          I think people leave because of the lack of niche communities.

          Reddit niche communities are like crack. None of the fandom communities are active here.

          Does piefed have good moderation tools?

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            13 hours ago

            I think people leave because of the lack of niche communities.

            That is also true:-). What they say for themselves is (1) tankies, (2) toxicity, (3) too confusing (this must be Lemmy bc PieFed’s sign up wizard is outstanding), and (4) yeah, lack of content.

            I haven’t moderated a community on PieFed, but in addition to what Skavau said, PieFed has many tools that alleviate the need for moderation in the first place, like keyword filtering (you wouldn’t need to make a community rule to reduce the amount of Musk or Trump content when users can filter that out on their own without needing a mod to do it for them) and user icons (next to e.g. highly contentious users with >10-fold more downvotes than upvotes, so you better know what you are getting into if you choose to respond).

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              For me it is personally what keeps me still on reddit.

              I love lemmy/piefed for the awesome people, but really feel the lack of niche content.

              I want to start my own communities on lemmy, but it is just so hard to keep it going. I don’t have the energy for that. Living life is difficult as it is already. And I don’t want to see my community die.

              Also Reddit bans you from upvoting and participating, but you still get personalized ads even after you get banned. LOL

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                There are whole entire huge events that happen in the world that when I search the Threadiverse find no matches to those keywords, as if it did not occur or at least it went unacknowledged by this community. So not even just lack of “niche” content, but lack of content beyond tankie and/or USA politics and Linux v. Windoze.

                Communities there are like “<insert name of game here, global version, community #2>”, while here it be like… “games”. Same for the vast majority of movies or TV shows.

                However, I completely get it - this is a toxic bunch, and I for one have stopped recommending Lemmy to people IRL. I don’t want to lose friendships over them coming here, seeing how we can be (without SUBSTANTIAL amounts of blocking), and then noping out, thinking I am one of “them”.

                We need the content, I am agreeing with you, but we will never get it because we chase everyone away by being too toxic. I am putting my hopes now not into Lemmy anymore but into PieFed, and in particular better moderation tools that could potentially save the Threadiverse from perpetually remaining in obscurity. Though it still needs quite a bit of polish first imho.

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            18 hours ago

            From an instance admins perspective, yes.

            Otherwise it’s about on-par at a community moderation level. It has a few other things but they don’t present as viewed from Lemmy, mitigating their utility at the moment.

        • Naia@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          I’ve gotten suspended from Reddit for hurting fascist’s feelings, most recently because I said what I wished had happened to the leaders of the confederacy.

          Reddit will let blatant hate speech and active calls for violence against minorities stand as “not violating any rules” and the only reason any of the subreddits aren’t overran by that crap is the individual subreddit mods remove comments and ban people, but that only goes so far as they are all unpaid volunteers.

          The kind of people that do get banned by Reddit for being bigots have to say stuff that would actually get them in legal trouble, and usually those are the ones that are actively threatening specific people all the time because they think death threats are an effective debate tactic when they don’t know what they are talking about, and they never know what they are talking about.

          Those people end up being a special kind of asshole so when they come to Lemmy they end up doing the same, but with federation they tend to endup more on the openly fascist instances that most sane instances don’t federate with.

        • BeardededSquidward@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          I received a “promoting violence violation” on reddit for referencing “Surviving The Game” and other tropes of where rich, white, affluent assholes hunt human for sport.

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        21 hours ago

        Not sure when you last visited, but reddit’s hostility is almost worse than twitter these days lol

        Saw someone get dogpiled with neonazi aryan rhetoric from several users for saying they “prefer curly hair”, it’s like its own MAGA cult now.

        • Naia@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          17 hours ago

          Also, Reddit admins regularly suspend/ban anyone marginally on the left when we say we will defend ourselves or when we express opinions about certain dead fascists or in my most recent suspension: Said the confederate leaders should have gotten the same treatment they gave to runaway slaves.

          Reddit only bans fascists/conservatives when they do something that could get them in legal trouble. But anyone on the left, and especially anyone queer, even slightly arguing we might need to defend ourselves from their violence with our own will get banned extremely quick.

          Remember: Reddit didn’t take down subreddits dedicated to perving on children until it got in the news.

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          Might be general tribal attitude.

          I was banned from reddit for calling out colonial apologia and saying fuck you nazi. They literally banned all my accounts without review. I wasn’t even trying to circumvent the ban with the others.

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        18 hours ago

        It wasn’t always like this. I feel like it’s really been in the last 3ish months. Hopefully it’ll pass.

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          13 hours ago

          Usually there’s an uptick of violent bOtH sIdEs SaMe-style rhetoric just prior to an election in some Western nation. I’m not sure if that is what is happening now or something else.