Not sure if this goes here, but you ever wake up and wonder if your the bad guy in your life? even if you have done like nothing wrong.

  • fizzle@quokk.au
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    16 hours ago

    Lemmy seems obsessed with “good people” and “bad people”.

    People are complicated and full of nuance.

    Someone may have done something that wasn’t great for you, but does that make them “the bad guy”?

    More likely their intentions actually pretty vanilla and the outcome was less than ideal due to pretty understandable reasons.

    Yes, there are exceptions but you don’t encounter them often enough to worry about.

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      14 hours ago

      I think it’s also important to realize that there’s a difference between being hurt and being wronged. Sometimes someone can do something that hurts you but isn’t wrong, morally, ethically, or legally. It might even be the right thing (ie, breaking up a relationship if it just isn’t working out). It might hurt you, but it didn’t wrong you. And then some people wrong you, such as committing crimes against you, being abusive, or shitty to you, and that’s not ok.

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      16 hours ago

      Someone may have done something that wasn’t great for you, but does that make them “the bad guy”?

      Yes?

      More likely their intentions actually pretty vanilla and the outcome was less than ideal due to pretty understandable reasons.

      People die from neglect. Should we not punish and rehabilitate those responsible despite whatever their intentions were?