• captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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    If you're interested in what worked for me

    Calorie counting is a good step. I’m not skinny because I have an active lifestyle, I’m skinny because I force myself to listen to my body in how much I put into it and when I give it more it’s because it’s telling me it’s doing something good with it.

    Calorie counting helps you understand how much you’re actually eating. After a week or two of it you can look up what your maintenance calories should be and create a general plan for how to get that much food in a day. The goal there is to learn what a healthy maintenance portion is and to get your body comfortable with it. Breaking a large meal into smaller plate sizes and only getting more after 10 minutes if you’re still hungry is a great trick too.

    Once you’re no longer hungry all the time on maintenance you can start doing a cut (start with 500 deficit, don’t exceed 1000). Have a goal weight and once you hit it maintain your controlled maintenance calories until it’s instinctive.

    Also, building muscle and more cardiovascular exercise are great additions to walking. Muscle burns more resting calories and is denser than fat, a good goal weight can look very different depending on how much muscle you carry.

    • 𝕱𝖎𝖗𝖊𝖜𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍@lemmy.world
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      I did try calorie counting and frequenting a gym when I was in college. I barely lost any weight and ended up more miserable because of the regimen, so I stopped. I really don’t think it’s a hunger thing either, I have ADHD and frequently skip meals unintentionally

      I really don’t know why my body just isn’t receptive to anything and my bloodwork doesn’t shine any lights

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        Yeah when I did my big loss it really sucked for like a month or two until my brain adjusted to the fact that I wasn’t going to give it what it wanted. I’ll also admit my big loss was not at a time where my mental state or material conditions were great, so it may have been more obsessive than most people are willing to engage in. And thats key here, the goal in life is to be happy and good, I’m happier skinnier and with an active lifestyle I have no judgment for those who find this process misery inducing and choose not to lose weight or look for alternative means of doing so.

        You have adhd you mentioned, so do I. So firstly, actually getting my adhd properly treated is vital, I can’t maintain good eating habits when unmedicated because I lack structure and willpower.

        But also, do you eat out of boredom? And have you tried making food in your home inconvenient to snack on. I have to do that sometimes, especially making food that’s easy to snack on out of the way. I’ve also found starting with a seltzer or gum helpful between meals. Aside from stuff like that, putting half what you expect to eat for your meal on your plate then waiting a bit after finishing before deciding if you want the other half is something else I’ve found helpful.