Here are some reflections on my personal experience of federated social media.

A bit of background. In the 90-9-1 trichotomy, I am one of the 9%: an occasional active participant. As of 3 years ago I had been dabbling in social media since I was a teenager in the 90s, but never very deeply. Newsgroups and IRC; a bit of invisible blogging; various techie web forums; Twitter from 2008 (hardly any tweets); Facebook in the early 2010s (a post or two per week at the peak); then Reddit. As of 2023 I had been “on” Reddit for nearly a decade and not even written 100 comments. Then I decided on a whim to join Lemmy.

The good

Three years later I have written nearly 100 original posts and over 3000 comments! This is an order of magnitude more than I used social media in the previous 25 years. How to explain it?

A bunch of things. I liked the UX instantly, it’s much better than Reddit. No ads, so no nagging feeling that you’re bankrolling a corporation. A (slightly) higher level of conversation quality than Reddit.

Probably the single biggest explanation is just that it’s quieter. On Reddit I always arrived too late to the party. It’s hard to find the motivation to say something when a thread already has 800 comments. On Lemmy, I’d arrive 12 hours after the post and there were only 6 comments. If I take the time to compose my thoughts, somebody might actually see it! I get the paradox here (there are tons more eyes passively looking at Reddit), but the “quiet room” effect is real.

Highlights

Hands down the best community I’ve found here is (no surprise) a specialized one: [email protected]. Lots of original content and genuine expertise, zero vitriol or toxicity. Perfect. In a similar vein, [email protected], where you can literally post pics of pigeons to an adoring audience.

I’ve also got some value out of [email protected] and [email protected] for one of those reasons: the ambient expertise. It’s not really breaking news: Linux and FOSS and privacy are really the only subjects where the fediverse can go toe-to-toe with the corporates in terms of expertise. IMO that’s already an achievement that should not be squandered!

Quite a few of my 96 posts are original content (“OG”, ugh). A whole bunch are photos from my bike-touring escapades, which I posted somewhat arbitrarily to [email protected] , [email protected], and [email protected]. I rationalize this as an alternative to blogging: instead of hosting your own invisible vanity website, you can write what you have to say in a place where you have less control but where people may actually read it. It’s the logic of social media, basically, but minus the ads and opaque algos and shareholders. As expected, my holiday photos were not viral sensations, but they did attract some love and a few nice comments. Success!

The less good

My experience on Lemmy has taught me something that I knew in theory but (somehow) not quite in practice: Socializing via text on a screen is quite hard to pull off successfully. The lack of physical accountability, the inherent difficulty of text communication (avoiding ambiguity without the help of a face or body language), all this tends to make people into worse versions of themselves. Me included to some extent, I’m sure.

And then there’s the echo-chamber problem. It turns out that when people have an option to avoid dealing with ideas they disagree with (even slightly), very many of them choose that option. IMO this is a major (perhaps fatal) problem with social media. The fediverse is not magically immune from it.

Lowlights

The first - and definitely worst - experience I’ve had was 2 years ago when I got banned from [email protected] for “racism and gaslighting” on the basis of, well, pretty much nothing except the moderator’s paranoia. Shut out of the single community that had most drawn me to Lemmy, I tried [email protected] and in short order had a similar experience. I am a European liberal who votes green, and a moderate on social questions, although admittedly I do enjoy debate. To be shut down so brutally for daring to question progressive doxas in the politest terms - for me this was quite a shocking confirmation of the intolerance of a certain section of the (mainly US) left.

On [email protected] I got a virtual slap on the wrist for posting an article offering constructive criticism of degrowth. I’m basically a degrowther myself but I believe it’s important to stress-test one’s ideas (cf. J S Mill). The moderators politely disagreed. Fair enough. I deleted my post and unsubscribed.

The problem on [email protected], meanwhile was (is) slightly different. It’s that the community is swamped by a single hyperactive member who posts relentlessly on exactly the same themes with the same POV, and - the echo chamber, again - responds badly to any pushback. I contacted the moderator in private and received a virtual shrug.

So I decided to ditch all politics and stick to photos and niche subjects. But even here it has not been plain sailing. A (slightly whiny) post I wrote a few months ago about the difficulty of installing Linux on cheap hardware (a pretty niche subject!) received an avalanche of mockery and insults that really took me aback. And then I really stirred up a hornets’ nest quite recently in this very community when I proposed a feature which would hugely improve my experience of Lemmy without affecting anyone else. Can’t link to that because it got (very belatedly) deleted, ostensibly because offtopic but in reality because the proposal was unpopular. In fact this was my last post on Lemmy to date. Probably not a coincidence.

Conclusions

For me personally, the jury’s still out. I’m pretty ambivalent about social media in general. Since The Atlantic introduced a discussion space a few months ago, I admit that I’ve transferred some of my energy there. And yes, it’s been a better experience. But the reason is no indictment of Lemmy: It’s that The Atlantic has a paywall, which essentially means I’m talking only to privileged people like myself there. I enjoy Hacker News even more, but that’s because it’s super specialized (politics is mostly banned), and professionally moderated, and also (attention: wild POV!) because it’s full of engineers and other spectrumy types who take a Spock-like approach to communication. The problems I’ve had on Lemmy are problems of all generalist social media, not specifically of the fediverse.

In my case what remains are the figures. Despite everything, I have contributed more, and more personally, on Lemmy than I ever did on the R-site or anywhere else. That has to count for something. Corporate social media is a manipulative money-driven spyware-fueled nightmare. The federated decentralized type is obviously, plainly, better. That’s why it has to succeed.

  • Lovable Sidekick@lemmy.world
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    I agree 100% with everything you’re saying. Expectation of conformity and zero-tolerance of nonconformity form a sort of tyranny that always makes any discussion of locally accepted gospel impossible. Many social media communities seem founded on absolutist beliefs that just aren’t up for discussion at all. Sometimes even asking informational questions out of genuine curiosity is treated as shilling or trolling - I suppose in those communities asking questions about doctrine any right-thinker should already know and accept is automatically suspect.

    As a Hacker News-type person I never thought of my communication as Spock-like, but that’s a great term!

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    The lack of physical accountability, the inherent difficulty of text communication (avoiding ambiguity without the help of a face or body language), all this tends to make people into worse versions of themselves.

    This is so true, and I hate it. I actually find Nextdoor quite refreshing because people are posting as their real selves, and nobody wants to be known as the local asshole. (Before someone makes an assumption, I’m not suggesting that we de-anonymize every social media platform. I just like having a platform that isn’t anonymous.)

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      I want to live where you live bc I’ve had to block several people on Nextdoor who are not afraid of being the local asshole. Entitled red state middle aged curmudgeons.

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    tried [email protected] and in short order had a similar experience.

    looks in the mod log

    reason: blatantly denying genocide

    Yep i guess i can skip this section of the post

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    A feature I like about Lemmy is that the mod-log is public and that you can go from comments in the mod-log directly to the related discussions.

    People should really check out OP’s mod-log and make up their own minds.
    Especially about the things he wrote about in his “Lowlights” section.

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      I’d rather react to posts and comments based on the content rather than peer into the author’s background to decide whether to put a black hat or white hat on them.

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      The mod logs are public in a sense, but also completely useless against the power hungry mods since they can ban and hide all the details of post/comment removals, and hide behind the anonymous mod name.

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      They should indeed, if they care that much. I stand by everything I wrote, namely a bunch of banal viewpoints that are completely middle-of-the-road anywhere outside the bubble of Lemmy.

      People classified as “progressive” make up 9-15% of the US population by one count (I believe another pollster put it at 7%). Americans here who are arguing with me are in fact arguing with the overwhelming majority of their compatriots.

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    It does have a bit of a echochamber (defederation and moderation) problem, i agree. We should look out for that.

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      echochambers are what people want.

      i’m not sure how you fix that ‘problem’. you can’t force folks to interact with those who are different than them without them becoming resentful and angry that differences exist, and inevitable demonizing people for those differences.

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        It would be great to have opt-in choices to either enter or not be forced into entering such spaces. Like I do not wish that e.g. ChapoTrapHouse did not exist, I only wish that proper labels would be more readily visible so that people would not stumble into them unawares. Likewise, Lemmy.ml’s disallowance of criticism of Russia, China, or North Korea is not exactly easily read from the instance sidebar, nor is that sidebar readily visible from most 3rd-party apps that I have seen - especially when browsing by All, which how else would someone even browse, especially when new and haven’t subscribed to much yet?

        So agreed that labeling would solve most of the issues. But if e.g. Lemmy.ml refuses to allow any criticism of Russia, China, or North Korea, then at least someone would be aware that it has chosen to be an echo chamber in that manner (while others choose to be echo chambers in different ways - e.g. PieFed chooses to restrict votes to a daily quota rather than topic-based, which is just a different style of filtering).

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          Haha. I used Lemmy.ml for a little while, and I noticed that it had a lot of pro-China posts and tankies, to the point that I found it likely to be state-sponsored propaganda. It’s reassuring to hear that someone else noticed the bias.

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          problematic communities like that are never going to label themselves as problematic.

          they also don’t see themselves that way. They think they are bastions of truth and free speech and open-mindedness, it’s just that everyone else is wrong and close minded.

          every echo chamber, and hate community, and cult-like group thinks like this. abusive sex cults don’t go ‘hey we are an abusive sex cult who will destroy your identity and steal all your money, come join us!’

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            And that mismatch between the claim and reality is what will - if anything does - doom the entire Threadiverse to irrelevance. It’s understandable that inside the echo chamber they refuse to see what is plain, but what is far less fine is when everyone else simply goes along with it, with zero pushback.

            Lemmy is a Nazi tankie bar (for anyone who does not know, see Paradox of Intolerance). The lack of moderation is why whenever Lemmy gets brought to in outside mentions, it is as the butt of a joke and laughed at (I’ve seen it treated such in Reddit, X, Bluesky, Tildes, etc.).

            Here is a perfect example: https://www.reddit.com/r/fossdroid/comments/1uiywal/should_we_switch_to_lemmy/. An entire community was deciding whether to move here or no, and the majority of the top comments are basically just “lolz no fucking way”. A few examples:

            My answer is no. I have tried repeatedly to use the Lemmy/Piefed and have bounced off each time because the platform is fundamentally at odds with good content. Bluesky’s upcoming Reddit alternative shows far more promise and I’d personally wait for that.

            I tried switching to Lemmy a long time ago, but that place is toxic and full of weird people.

            There are big pockets of radical tankie communities on Lemmy that like trolling and being toxic

            There are a lot more reasons than this but having spent the last 3 years on the fediverse alternatives, and just seen the shit that happens over there, I feel very confident in saying it will not ever serve as a serious Reddit alternative. It will serve as something, but not Reddit

            Lemmy is shit. So is reddit but Lemmy is shittier

            Lack of proper moderation… I once saw CP and have never used fediverse ever since. I’d rather not use social media at all than to take part in half measures

            To be fair, some of these issues are older now - like PieFed has basically solved the onboarding issue, and db0 solved the CP spam one from years back, though such events tend to stick around in people’s memories… and I cannot honestly state that the lack of moderation has gotten any better. MAYBE will the upcoming release of Lemmy v1.0??? Though I exceedingly doubt that, especially after seeing what happened to Lemm.ee.

            Also tbf, people did recommend Beehaw and mander.xyz as sensible choices. The former was more or less soundly rejected by bringing up its defederation status from lemmy.world, cutting it off from the majority of the Threadiverse communities (although the ones locally on it i think are quite nice - I’ve never had a negative interaction with any of them), and the point that a single cadre of super-mods controls the entirety of what is allowed to be said on it, which is what they would be wanting to get away from by leaving Reddit. Browsing locally on mander.xyz though… that just might work!? But only if you are exclusively interested in STEM and basically nothing else.

            Being a tankie bar is our choice, but others refuse to enter into that journey alongside us. So long as we entertain the most toxic among us, refusing to distinguish them in any way from anyone else, mainstream normies are going to refuse to put in the enormous amount of effort required to do that work for themselves, and so will simply stay on Reddit or move to corporate solutions (like Bluesky) that do not shirk from doing so, rather than enjoy the Fediverse where they would be free but that also requires the high amount of effort that comes with that.

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        The solution is quite simple, really. Mods (or anyone else for that matter) should not be able to ban people. The concept of global banning shouldn’t exist. If an account posts/comments stuff you like, then just block it on a personal level. Global banning (especially when the decision can only be done by the mods / a select few people) will always lead to echo chambers.

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          The concept of gloanl banning shouldn’t exist.

          Then a few accounts could spam every community with nazi shit or child porn (hidden from users who blocked them), so any newly registered users would leave the second they joined.

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            Would this really happen, tho? Also you could give a prompt to new users on this issue and tell them how they can subsequently block those accounts. Sure, there are always pros and cons to doing things, but in my experience the current approach where you give a select few people total control always results in total echochambers. Which I believe on the broader scale just reinforces the political divide of a society.

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              yes, it does frequently. you’re naive if you think there are highly abusive actors in every online space like this.

              determined folks with negative agendas also have a lot more resources and energy to put into harassment and spamming, than any ordinary person does. they are also often well-financed and emotionally driven.

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          Ironically, PieFed has allowed such things for something like a year already - e.g. with keyword filters someone who does not want to view content involving “Trump” or “Musk” can avoid it on a personal level, without requiring a mod to make that decision for everyone.

          Likewise, for all the flak it has received, the “reputation” visual indicators put additional power into the hands of end-users to decide how they best would like to interact with others on the platform.

          Another one, back to actual filters again, is an automated collapsing or even filtering of comments below a certain score threshold. I always turned those off, but for those who want them they are neat to have - not every moment of every day does every person need to be ready to read such content, sometimes people just want a break from anything controversial and to enjoy a pleasant read?

          Lemmy is glacially slow to add new features so I wouldn’t hold my breath for these anytime soon, but FYI, they do already exist elsewhere.

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          This never works

          ughhh why do libertarians think they are the first babies to use their brain in the most basic way possible?

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      I am so tired of this lazy narrative, the obvious truth here is CENTRALIZED SPACES ARE MORE SUSCEPTIBLE TO THE ECHO CHAMBER EFFECT.

      Yes it is still a problem here of course but the diversity here mitigates not worsens that issue.

      If you are going to disagree with me prove it with data and facts I don’t care about your anecdotally derived feelings about it.

      Echo Chambers literally require large monolithic enclosed spaces to echo, a series of isolated smaller foam cells form materials with sound deadening properties so not only is the intuition/metaphor wrong here it is 180 degrees wrong.

      https://www.thevitagroup.com/en/vita-blog/how-does-soundproofing-foam-work/

      Sound absorbing foams are typically softer and more lightweight than their sound blocking counterparts. Sound absorbing foams typically feature open and flexible foam cell structures, which act as natural absorbers of sound waves, preventing further reverberation from hard surfaces such as walls, floors and ceilings.

      This is achieved by converting existing sound energy to heat, as the sound-wave energy is dissipated within the porous structure of the acoustic foam, thereby reducing the ability of sound-waves to bounce back into the room.

      The structure most prone to the Echo Effect is a Cathedral not a dense network of semi-isolated smaller spaces. Every time we discuss “Echo Chambers” without recognizing this it dumbs the conversation down further.

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      How does Lemmy.zip have an echo chamber / defederation issue?

      If it does, this is the first I am hearing about it, and I find it of great interest.

      If not though, then why does it bother you that other people may have made a different choice than what your instance has done?

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        Uhm, more generally, not only lemmy.zip. Most of lemmy is more left-leaning + tech, while more conservatives might feel more welcome with the (defederated) tankies. This can be a problem, with fueling extreme views.

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          Most of Lemmy is also white and male in addition to being left-leaning and tech focused. We really could use more diversity across the board here.

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            There are no ads here, and no corporate Algorithm to contend with, plus everything is entirely freely offered. If we were more welcoming to mainstream normal folks, people would be outright flocking here.

            In fact, people have checked us out and even made accounts, but at least half the people that came here have since left, often self-reportedly after remaining here for at least one or multiple years. We are driving them away in droves. Possibly we do not (collectively) want them here.

            What we “need” (in order to survive) vs. what will actually be done are entirely separate matters.

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                Thank you for clarifying, no I actually meant non-technical folks who don’t spend as much time in introspection, as opposed to e.g. creating things. An example could be a comics artist, or a craftsperson, let’s say working with wood, who gets confused by all the technical hurdles needing to be overcome in order to join the Threadiverse. We (who use Linux btw) thought virtually nothing of any of that, even finding it fascinating how and why the entire Fediverse is able to function as it does, but they tend to feel daunted at such and turn away rather than engage.

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                  I felt the need to clarify since you chose my comment about needing more diversity of people with a quip about not wanting mainstream, normal folks.

                  It was the rampant sexism that initially turned me away from the fediverse. I think I tried two or three times before I found my groove and the communities that speak to me.

                  It’s not that confusing to use the Threadiverse and I think it’s a little snobbish of you to think crafts people shouldn’t be welcome if they get confused by some of the tech stuff here. I have never used Linux and can function fine on this site. You’re underestimating people.

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    Lemmy is a total echo chamber, so I was smiling when you said “it’s not immune to it”. That’s the understatement of the year award. :)

    Upvotes make sure that popular opinions are at the top and people even report opinions they dont like to moderators here. Lol.

    At least I’m on a good instance with a sane owner, but Jesus Christ, this place can be ridiculous. I’ve been told I’m a troll for disagreeing with the majority many, many times.

    Not vaccinering against covid used to upset almost everyone, and it probably still does.

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        Would love to see that to see context and the comments in question

        Cause this thread seems to be you’re very antisemitic and don’t give a shit about the Palestinians

        https://lemmy.zip/post/58290305/24384479

        At very least using nazi dog whistles

        Idk if you already knew and were just engaging to fight the anti-semitism, but “follow the money” especially in reference to “the rich ones (Jews)” is literal neo-nazi dogwhistling. Just pointing out that you won’t get anywhere productive with that one unless you plan on using a loaded gun as your primary means of communication.

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          you got me bro. i’m just a Big Zionist Nazi who wants to kill everyone everywhere all the time.

          i hope you feel very important and special now, for all your hard investigative work, exposing me for the horrid piece of shit human being. i bet that little thrill you got up your spine for ‘exposing’ me was very yummy for you.

          instead of like you know, acknowledging the hard fact that AIPAC is spends a fuckload of money buying off US politicians… to get them to vote for weapons packages… nah that can’t be real. it’s that i’m a nazi who hates jews, but also i love israeli and hate palestians. we can’t be looking at facts because facts are thinks that nazis and jew haters and palestian haters would look at. we can’t do that. we can’t make statements based on the facts of the political situation, no sir.

          hey, did you know i don’t use pronouns on my lemmy profile and that means i also hate an want to kill trans people! yeah! that’s how all of this works. anyone who isn’t on your side and goosesteps the way you think you should goosestep, is your enemy.

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            There is a lot of truth to what you are saying here. Lemmy users are very quick to categorize other users into extreme categories, such as nazi or fascist, based on a few comments they make.

            How many actual nazi or fascists do we have that are Lemmy users? Can’t be many.

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              the legit facists and nazis don’t exist in public accessible spaces. if you follow any legit reporting you know they recruit in like discord, but the have their own tech spaces out of the public eye. sadly they are often far smarter and far more tech savvy than the leftists that claim to oppose them, at least the dummies here who claim that.

              ProPublica and other sources tell these stories, but they’re written at a grade-level that the labeling lemmites can’t understand, because it’s legit reporting instead of sensationalism.

              You might also notice that basically no legit hard hitting news sources ever get posted here… but all the shitty rage bait leading headlines do… because any these fools probably thing FrontLine and ProPublica are Zionist or something, despite them having some of the best reporting on the issues they claim to care about.

              It is cool at least to see there are smart and reasonable folks here, and sometimes there are super cool threads full of them where the dummies don’t even show up because the reading level of the comments is too sophisticated for them.

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              you’re welcome.

              now leave me alone and let me keep being a zionist nazi who wants to destroy all of society by citing wikipedia articles and statistics.

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      Upvotes make sure that popular opinions are at the top

      ??
      I have sorting set to “newest”.

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          What i wanted to say: sorting is up to you.

          But maybe the default should not be set to votes.

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              And instance websites? I have no experience with them, is this not a (federated) profile setting?

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                Not federated and it doesn’t need to be since you use the same instance all the time. It’s the content that is federated to your instance and you just view it on your instance.

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      when you said “it’s not immune to it”. That’s the understatement of the year award

      My post is stuffed with strategic understatement. I wanted people to take it seriously so I had to try not to lose them.

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    Also, to add:

    Information hygiene here is bad.

    Every day, nearly every time I scroll the feed, some spicy headline goes past. When I go to look it up, it’s often completely made-up misinformation, or a warped ragebait headline, or a literally bot-written Tweet, yet it’s voted right to the front page.

    …I thought Reddit refugees would be sick of this, and more careful/skeptical, but apparently not. I’ve even talked to some users who don’t understand the distinction between opinion columns and news.

    And I had an argument with a mod, who had no problem with an LLM engagement farm Tweet as long as its “the right message.”

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      I was baffled when the other day a bot decided to show up in [email protected] posting a very clearly vibe coded project that aggregated companies self made claims, which we all know is the best source! It currently sits on 300/15 vote ratio with comments being thankful for the “research” they have made. https://feddit.uk/post/52795270

      The internet is either dead or im getting crazy. Like, what are we doing here? They are even getting upvotes on em dash riddled comments with paragraphs upon paragraphs of unimportant, irrelevant shit. Please wake the fuck up. This is so stupid and has me in loss for words. With how much people hate AI on here I thought they would at least knew how to spot one. Actually zero media literacy.

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        The message has been corrected 3 times already in response to user feedback and changed its whole style of handling corrections at least once - that is highly unusual (next to unheard of) behavior for a bot? Maybe someone ran the initial text through an AI for cleanup but that’s a far cry from being a clanker themselves personally.

        As for the project itself, I did not need to look all that deep to notice that it found several brands that were improperly labeled, at which point I can well understand people upvoting at least a partial solution as being better than nothing being done about the situation at all.

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          Its fairly normal actually. Projects like Open Claw can be let loose on the web and because of the openes of the fediverse they don’t have many obstacles in doing so. I also do not believe there is no human at all behind it, but what ever triggers it does not check what the ouput of it is. There so much 0 information filler text and the common AI structure that I do not think it was just used as “cleanup”.

          I do not see much value in a partial solution if I do not know what is correct and I end up having to look it up myself anyways. Its just a waste of water. It might be a good list to start from but the information can never be trusted doesn’t matter how much tokens you invest.

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      Though /all is more intended for discovery, not as a “frontpage”, no? Subscribe to some interesting topics, block offensives?
      Now that i think about it; yeah, “hygiene” is mostly left to you. But i think that’s kinda expected of a emancipated(?, mündiger) person, the alternative being, the instance deciding what you should see. Also, there’s a mechanism to hide bots? Voyager has it.

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        It still an attention drain for the whole Fediverse.

        It’s zero sum: every eyeball on made-up garbage is a someone not engaging with authentic content. And from the looks of things, it’s draining a lot of attention.

        It’s easy to say “just deal with it yourself,” and I do, but it’s still not good for the health of content I do see.

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      Every day, nearly every time I scroll the feed, some spicy headline goes past. When I go to look it up, it’s often completely made-up misinformation, or a warped ragebait headline, or a literally bot-written Tweet, yet it’s voted right to the front page.

      I think this is the thing that bothers me the most about Lemmy. I thought we all came here to get away from this intentionally misleading bullshit, but I guess not.

      The political subreddits, especially the “politics” ones, are the absolute worst about this. Like, there is so, so, SO much real shit to get mad at about the current US administration, so why is most of what I see completely cherry-picked rage-bait bullshit??

      Edit: Also, same as imaqtpie, I’m totally stealing “information hygeine” for calling out posts like that.

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        Yeah.

        For a while, I came here with the attitude of “don’t block anything,” but the politics subs are just too much. It’s not that they post misinformation, but that it’s always at the absolute top of hot/new comments, drowning everything else out.

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      …I thought Reddit refugees would be sick of this, and more careful/skeptical, but apparently not.

      “I thought the behavior that they engaged in on the other site wouldn’t happen here on the new site!”

      shocked pikachu face

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        The people who left reddit to join Lemmy aren’t representative of the average reddit user. They consisted of a fraction of a percent of the userbase and generally were the type to be calling out bad information hygiene. It might surprise you, but everyone who ever used reddit doesn’t behave in the exact same way or value the same exact things. Tbh, I think the information hygiene was much better here shortly after the API exodus, and it has slowly degraded again over the past few years.

        Btw I never heard information hygiene before but I’m going to keep using that, it’s a great term.

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          It’s definitely been a term for some time. I don’t know who invented it, but I heard it elsewhere.

          I love it too.

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        Yeah while Lemmy has been great for refugees from reddit. Lemmy’s decentralized approach makes it very difficult to deal with bad faith actors.

        More than a few extremely bad trolls/people that were banned from Reddit for very good reasons have infected Lemmy over the past few years.

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          I remember when I first got here, there’s ALWAYS the innitial shock of “what IS this place???”

          Once I figured out what this place was, I asked what I thought was an obvious queation.

          “If people can interact with the same communities from different instances, wouldn’t it be easy to just make a new account on a new instance? The name might be the same, but the instance is different, so it’s a different account. And since anyone can host an instance, what’s not to prevent someone from hosting hundreds or thousands of instances with the explicit intent on being malicious?”

          When I asked that two years ago, I was told by several members that would never be an issue, since instance owners can defederate with instances.

          Which I don’t think solves the problem. It seems to me in a cat and mouse game here it’s not the admins who hold the advantage. Seems like the troublemakers hold the advantage.

          Because everything the admins have is reactionary. They can only ban after the troublemakers cause trouble. But then they’re back in 10 seconds.

          The admins aren’t paid. The mods aren’t paid. It seems to me if troublemakers wanted to shut everything down they would do it with a coordinated attack. Having thoussnds if not millions of bots all at once overrun the human mods.

          Eventually the mods and admins would have no choice but to shut down. Too little resources to keep up with the work of running a popular instance.

          And thats kind of what happened with lemm.ee. Not trolls per se, but a lack of resources. They ran out of money and resources to host an instance, and that’s without the traffic of overwhelming trolls.

          Yet when I said this, I was told I was wrong. Yet here we are. Now you have 1 troll who manually makes account and is banned. Makes account, gets banned. Makes account, banned again.

          Thats ONE troll, who honestly seems like he’s doing it for his own amusement rather than malicious intent.

          What happens when there’s a much larger concentrated troll attack?

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            The other reason that lemm.ee shut down was its intentional choice to open itself up to all-comers. Hexbear, Lemmygrad, incels for whom no means push forward harder, all are welcome come right in. Obviously it became too much for the mods to keep up so they quit, thereby leaving the task of moderation to their instance admins, who also subsequently quit, and therefore shut down the entire instance. You can correctly say that it was toxicity that killed that instance, but the other side to that is that they were the ones who opened themselves up to that choice.

            As the subscriber numbers for the entire Threadiverse continue to fall (now at ~35k monthly active users, down from the post-Rexodus peak of ~55k), there may be some lessons in there for us all to learn from. I am not entirely certain but perhaps one is that while echo chambers are bad, the opposite of that (a cacophony of shit takes, like 4chan?) is exhausting and arguably equally bad, just for different reasons. It turns out that when nobody filters what you have to say in any way, a lot of what gets said under those conditions ends up being not worth hearing, objectively speaking (in the sense that people leave rather than stick around to hear it).

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            The only way I can think of to actually solve that problem is a whitelist, and that’s a thousand times more work for unpaid moderators and will produce the echoiest of chambers

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    So, you’re a debate bro who argues Syrian refugees increase crime and terrorism, trans women in sports and children accessing trans healthcare are legitimate issues, and support Israel and claim there isn’t a genocide.

    You say shit like “So many hypersensitive thin-skinned vacuum-cleaner owners! Perhaps they’re projecting their insecurities because deep down they know I’m right.” and argue intolerance that people don’t support your terrible viewpoints?

    You’re peak fucking reddit mate.

    To me the good of the Fediverse is that it highlights dishonest people like yourself.

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      Holy cow that comment history. Geez. Yeah. If this is who is complaining about the Fediverse as an echo chamber then we must be doing something right.

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      hahaha oh boy

      …The fediverse is not magically immune from it… …ditch all politics…

      the magical free-speech experiment launched by idealistic commies of course collapsed in an authoritarian heap almost immediately

      the commies just wanted a place to dictate where they couldn’t get banned

      but everyone still says “look reddit bad”

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        I couldn’t figure out why they aren’t on Reddit… It is such a safe place for them… Why are they all here… I think you’re exactly right

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      On the contrary, I think the impulse to check a user’s post history and judge them is a bad habit on Lemmy.

      Take me. Scroll through my history, and you’ll probably peg me as a AI Tech Bro and a… closet neolib, maybe? I dunno. But if it’s along those lines, you could not be more wrong, on either count.

      With the exception of extreme trolls (or moderators doing their thing), I think Lemmy’s culture of “purity checks” is poison to the platform. It turns communities insular, toxic, and angry like it does on Reddit, governed by takes that have nothing to do with the particular thread. It kills the focus of communities. It rewards conformance.

      And this thread is a good example. I thought OP was raising some good general points, but digging previous comments up threw all that out the window. I’ve seen this happen in other threads, where a technical or fandom discussion devolves into unrelated, raging arguments on something I did not come there to read.

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          It hardly needs to be said, but the problem is many people here define “bigot” as “someone who doesn’t agree with me”.

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            Said dude who wrote this shit:

            And it is at least partly because of a radical overreach in policy demands over the last decade by the “T” in LGBT. It has generated an inevitable backlash that is now hurting the other letters in the soup, of which I am one.

            Maybe it’s you who are the problem, at least sometimes?

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              Good someone went to the trouble of digging that up. A link would have been useful. I stand by everything I have ever written, otherwise I would have deleted it.

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        If you don’t want to be judged by extremely toxic takes, don’t post them.

        That is the same as saying “no disrespect” then immediately saying some extremely disrespectful shit . Sorry you deservedly lost all credibility in my opinion.

        I don’t know if the original poster posted those takes, but if they did they deserved all the blame. I mean there are literally thousands of hours of unedited video shopping the genocide. To even try to say it didn’t happen means you’re a troll a shit box.

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        Thank you for expressing perfectly the points I didn’t have the energy to make myself. It’s a comfort to know that there are other people here who still believe in free expression and enjoy hearing opinions they don’t necessarily share.

        PS: But judging by the upvote tallies, we’re outnumbered about 3 or 4 to one. I have no idea how democracy will continue to exist if this is representative of the offline world.

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          PS: But judging by the upvote tallies, we’re outnumbered about 3 or 4 to one. I have no idea how democracy will continue to exist if this is representative of the offline world.

          You’re judging the resilience of democracy based on upvotes and downvotes?

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          Free expression does not mean no push back. You shouldn’t complain about someone calling you out because they don’t agree.

          However, I don’t like it when people get banned from communities for disagreement. Unless you spam, or do not engage in a good faith argument (both of which are noise, not signal) you should be allowed to post.

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            I have literally never complained when someone disagreed with me politely. I love debate. I don’t like rudeness, insults, mockery, brigading, and all the rest of the litany of social-media toxicity.

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              Agreed on brigading, with a caveat.

              Sometimes what feels like brigading is just a lot of people being genuinely pissed off at you enough to stop lurking. I have experienced this myself, from saying something dumb, or being confidently ignorant, etc, and thereby attracting the anger of the mob.

              Usually there’s someone in there willing to correct me, so I learn something from the experience. Which I would never have done if I just got annoyed at the pile of hostility and assumed I was right.

              Another problem is that rudeness and insults and mockery are not objective. There is no set definition.

              For some people, it’s rude to say a trans man is a man, because the idea seems unscientific, or against their religion, or just unfamiliar and therefore possibly dangerous. They have a visceral reaction of disgust or fear, or uncertainty, or all three, because they don’t know what this means for the world.

              For the majority of people, it’s either fine to say, or not important. Someone wants to be a guy, what do I care? There are real problems to worry about.

              But for a trans man, if someone says that trans men aren’t real men, it’s not just rude, it feels like a kick in the balls. For them, the stakes are very high.

              The person saying it might feel like they’re taking crazy pills when they get such a strong pushback, because to them, it’s simple. Dick = boy, pussy = girl. They learned it before they could remember learning anything, and never even dreamed it could be more complicated than that.

              So they genuinely aren’t being intentionally rude, but the other person feels very insulted. See? It’s like when I used to be an obnoxious atheist, and mocked the idea of religious belief because it just seemed so pointless and silly to pretend there’s a big old man in the sky who made everything.

              Before I knew it was more complicated. I did not consider that a) You cannot actually disprove God, so arguing about it is very silly indeed, and b) if someone builds their psyche around an idea, one that holds great meaning to them, and helps them see meaning in this life, and gives them joy… Why would I fight that?

              (As long as they aren’t being control freaks and trying to impose their own beliefs on other people, of course.)

              Anyway, the point there is that young me would not think he was insulting someone’s entire pysche by mocking the idea of God, but he was. And therefore, the people I may have come to terms with back then, and learned from, dismissed me as an atheist, and I dismissed them as too stupid to see the obvious.

              So it’s not as simple as “Everyone just stop being rude! Jeez! Stop calling me a genocide denier!” and expecting a pleasant, unthreatening debate.

              Sometimes the truth can feel like a threat because of how wrong you are.

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              Get a thicker skin. The world is not designed to cater to your specific sensibilities. Taking a shitty opinion and gussying it up in pretty language isn’t some magic spell that makes you immune to push back, and the fact that some people are less than polite doesn’t invalidate their response.

              You want to be able to push buttons with your edgy “it’s just a debate bro” opinions while being spared impassioned responses. Too fucking bad, bro. Either man up and get thick enough skin to wade in the water or stay the fuck off the beach.

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                This comment makes my point. I’m arguing that federated social media would be a more pleasant place, with more interesting contributions, and definitely a wider demographic profile, if less of the comments were aggressive and profanity-laden like this one.

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                  I’m not sure the majority of us want to make this a more pleasant place for people who express the ideas you do. You’re free to express them, but you’re not free from criticism.

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                  And you’re fucking wrong. We don’t need the sterility of traditional social media because that only existed in the first place to be advertiser-friendly.

                  You aren’t better, more correct, or more valid because you play the respectability politics game, you’re just bitter that the game isn’t as effective here without the incentive of advertiser-friendliness to wield as a cudgel.

                  Either grow up and learn to meet people where they are instead of expecting people to play by and cater to your personal preferences, or fuck right off.

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      I was waiting for this comment. Since others won’t bother checking, here’s the fact-check.

      who argues Syrian refugees increase crime and terrorism

      Incorrect.

      trans women in sports and children accessing trans healthcare are legitimate issues,

      Correct.

      and support Israel

      Correct. I support every sovereign country’s right to exist.

      and claim there isn’t a genocide.

      Incorrect. Literally no opinion because it’s unfalsifiable.

      On the vacuum cleaner, I was totally right and stand by my based take.

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        Its a sovereign country that is the colonization of an existing people’s home 😅

        Its a settler colonialist nation trying to build an ethnostate in someone else’s homeland, and currently doing so by overt ethnic cleansing 😅

        If any state is a legitimate one then all you have to do to legitimize any settler colonial state is set up a government and all of a sudden you’re allowed to be there and murder or displace all the other inhabitants, and any attack on you by those colonized people facing the wholesale destruction of their society can be claimed as self defense 😅

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          I mean almost every single country was established the same way. The only difference is Israel is doing it now in modern times when we should know better.

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            Yes, though isreal is perhaps more completely commited to building an ethnostate than many countries have been, at least to my knowledge of history. Which granted, I don’t know that much. I’ve been trying to learn more

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            No. Not all settlement has been like this. This kind of systematic land grab is a recent phenomenon. It’s not comparable to the vile conquering and pillaging of the older times. It’s worse.

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    I was curious about the posts mentioned so I took a look at your history and can kinda see why. The Linux one didn’t make too much sense to me but people were generally nice to you, although understandable skeptical since you’re talking about hardware not working. Honestly you had a bit of a meltdown in that thread, which I think contributed more to the down votes than the initial opinion (like you said, text brings out a worse version of yourself).

    The political ones, I mostly pieced together genecide denial (?) which has generally been very unpopular here. To be fair, that was more than a year ago, although what was unpopular then has aged even worse, what with people in Europe getting arrested for pro-Palastinian views and such.

    I’m not saying the behavior of mods and such were justified, of course, just… y’know, two sides of the story. You’re in the right to express your views and seek discussion, but others have an equal right to call you out on it-- especially if you get defensive and rude over polite, reasonable responses.

    But that’s just my two cents. I only ever comment, and I’ve had moments with people being rude or misunderstanding my intent. It happens, as social media is just that way.

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      Even the ones agreeing and cheering with op are ones with the same circumstances. Mod log full of terrible comments and behaviors which they are here actively trying to diminish

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      Yeah the dude is trying to point it a “their problem”, while he is trying to excuse a genocide. I don’t know about the ban, but it’s funny that these kinds of people always think they are somehow victims.

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      Sure, that sounds mostly fair to me. Except on the silly genocide point, which is maybe revealing of something. Again, I do not have a personal opinion on it and never expressed one beyond refusing to endorse the progressive party line, which seems to have taken on the quality of a religious purity test.

      especially if you get defensive and rude over polite, reasonable responses

      Defensive, sure. But almost never rude. I’ve made a massive effort to avoid insults and mockery because I understand it’s counterproductive. That is unlike very many of the people who I’ve had the temerity to contradict or disagree with on this platform. It sometimes feels like others often don’t made that distinction (between testiness and outright insult), and take any contradiction of viewpoint as a licence to get personal. You seem to be fair-minded: If you looked more closely, I think you might see what I mean.

      The general tone of your comments, i.e. generous but a bit mystified, suggests to me that you just happen to share the prevailing values and assumptions and opinions here. That will go a long way to getting you a good experience.

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        Again, I do not have a personal opinion on it and never expressed one beyond refusing to endorse the progressive party line, which seems to have taken on the quality of a religious purity test.

        I think it would help to know in more detail what went down here. If we’re talking about justifying, perhaps even unintentionally, genocide in either the sense of mass killing or mass removal by other means… I think it’s pretty understandable that civility starts to go out the window a bit. Arguably the position itself is uncivil, whatever words are used to support it. When your start to talk about the right to exist or not, to not be killed or forcibly removed by a state… that’s a life or death question and people will react that way. There are some issues there’s no room for reasonable disagreement on.

        That said, on wider issues, as someone firmly on the left, I do completely agree that the left can get kind of ridiculously emotionally invested and toxic over even minor disagreements from other leftists that absolutely don’t meet the above threshold, even on questions as banal as pure strategy vs actual ideological disagreement. But it’s hard to say if what you experienced was the latter and not you possibly being oblivious to your part in the former without more detail.

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          There are some issues there’s no room for reasonable disagreement on.

          There’s always room for reasonable disagreement when the issue in question is a word whose definition contains an element of intent and is therefore unfalsifiable.

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            There’s always room for reasonable disagreement when the issue in question is a word whose definition contains an element of intent and is therefore unfalsifiable.

            This sounds to me that you would rather discuss semantics, than spend five minutes trying to actually falsify the term “genocide” when applied to Palestine [0] [1] [2]

            These links alone are enough to prove intent from the defence ministry.

            [0] https://www.theguardian.com/world/2026/may/28/israels-defence-minister-says-large-scale-palestinian-migration-from-gaza-will-go-ahead

            [1] https://www.haaretz.com/israel-news/israel-politics/2026-03-26/ty-article/.premium/no-innocent-children-israeli-lawmaker-defends-killing-of-palestinian-family/0000019d-2976-d8a3-abff-39764b2e0000

            [2] https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/aug/17/israeli-general-aharon-haliva-palestinians-7-october-gaza

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            When the pattern of behaviour gives very clear indication of intent, the denial of this indicates that either you’re in favour of it, or don’t think it’s a bad thing.

            When what folk see makes them feel sick to their stomach, such as a child being shot in the head, or families being shot in line for food due to a scarcity created by those making the people line up like animals, it’s going to elicit a visceral response. I personally could not fathom how a human being with functioning empathy could be fine with that.

            You’ve already stated you like discussing with people of privilege. That I’m alright, Jack attitude when it comes to life and death is pretty disturbing. What makes us feel is what makes us human.

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              I’d argue that this empathy is selective. Were you as exercised by the horrors that were inflicted by the other side in this particular conflict? What about the handful of conflicts in the world, for example Darfur, where the scale of suffering and atrocity is unarguably worse than anything happening in the Middle East? People seem to know inside-out the situation in Gaza and who’s responsible and how terrible they are. Much less interest in, say, Myanmar, or even Iran, where the government seems to have inflicted years worth of Gaza’s suffering in the space of just a few days six months ago. It’s revealing.

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                This is whatabouttery. I care about Darfur, Myanmar, Tigray, etc. That doesn’t take away from what is happening in Palestine.

                You have yet to describe why any of those situations are worse than flattening schools, hospitals, collapse of healthcare, full blockade of food, medical supplies, water, people living in camps where disease is rampant.

                How is Iran killing a number of civilians worse than killing civilians, starvation, disease, shooting babies in the head?

                All your post is doing, is showing bias, and a lack of care about what is happening there. The problems is you cannot persuade someone to care about human suffering, and if you don’t, why should I engage with you in a logical debate?

                Your problem is, you don’t care, and you want people to be fine with you being fine with children being shot in the head. You’re on a left-leaning platform where people give a shit about their fellow man. People who give their time to work on open source generally have empathy as a core view.

                Post your pro-Israel views on Xitter, or reddit and you’ll get the validation you prefer. Its an echo chamber close to yoir political persuasion. You enter a place that think differently and prepare to be challenged. Ultimately, if you want to be an empathetic human being, prepare to be wrong. Can you handle that? Your bio suggests you won’t engage if downvoted. I’ve not down voted you, but I’ll tell you you’re wrong. I say you’re wrong because I’m giving you the benefit of the doubt and I’m assuming you’re not evil.

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                This discussion isn’t about empathy, it’s about genocide. Changing the topic to a different, irrelevant subject as an attempt to deflect, distract, or disengage with a thought is something known as whataboutism.

                As an example, let’s say the answer to all of your questions is “yes.” Does that change the fact that a genocide is happening in Palestine? No, it does not.

                Now let’s pretend the answer to all of your questions is “no.” Does that change the fact that a genocide is happening in Palestine? No, it does not.

                If you think the left is not politically educated enough, the solution to that problem is reading books and sharing knowledge and educating your peers, not engaging in the very same purity tests that you find so problematic.

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            I can’t respond to such a circumspect answer.

            I can only answer generally that there still sometimes not room for reasonable disagreement where intent is involved. Courts absolutely do prove intent for some crimes beyond a reasonable doubt… someone could still disagree, but by definition it isn’t necessarily a reasonable disagreement.

            Murder (vs manslaughter) in most jurisdictions is a question of intent. We prove it to the point of no reasonable disagreement all the time. That’s the very standard we use.

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              Sure, I get that. On this particular question, it seems clear to me that no such “beyond reasonable doubt” exists.

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                Categorically, as you claimed before? Why not? If we can prove intent of an individual action beyond reasonable doubt, why not an action by an organization of people?

                Or are you now acknowledging intent can be proven beyond reasonable doubt but that it hasn’t been in the case you were banned for arguing it?

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                  The second. Anything that is technically unfalsifiable can be “proven” beyond reasonable doubt in a court of law, I understand that. Anyway, I find this subject stultifyingly boring, I don’t have anything else to say on it.

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        Usually when you ask someone who’s passionate about something they have no issue going into detail. I guess we’re on that Reddit behavior of just telling the person to fuck off.

        Btw the subreddit I was directed to, the sidebar literally said “Discussions about degrowthing”. Brother IDK what it is. Sorry if I sound like an ass it’s a pet peeve of mine when people do this.

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    The first - and definitely worst - experience I’ve had was 2 years ago when I got banned from [email protected] for “racism and gaslighting” on the basis of, well, pretty much nothing except the moderator’s paranoia.

    It wasn’t me, but looking at your moderation log and the messages in question, I would have called it “islamophobia and downplaying neo-nazi crimes” and banned you just the same. Others are welcome to have a look at those messages and judge for themselves 🤷

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      Yeah their mod log is wild, and only amazing they haven’t been banned from more.

      I guess that’s what they meant by stopping politics?

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        Everyone is the hero in their own story, and sadly Islamophobia is widely spread with people that call themselves “liberals”.

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            Except that it wasn’t me who banned them. I am just looking at the modlog and their own explanation of what happened.

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              I know you didn’t ban them. But you’re also considering yourself the hero in your own story when you go around Lemmy criticizing people of an extremely similar political viewpoint as yourself for not being left-wing enough and intimating that they are Islamophobic if they make any criticism of Muslims whatsoever. Seems like a self-defeating MO to me but what do I know.

              Ironically, it’s fairly similar to people who claim that any criticism of Israel is equivalent to anti-semitism. It’s possible to criticize behaviors, groups, and/or cultures without being hateful towards them. Quite frankly, if you read Islamophobia from the two removed comments in the modlog, it says a lot more about you than OP.

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                This is a complete misrepresentation of what happened. Did you even read the messages they were banned for?

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                  The full story is that the mod admitted banning me not for what I wrote but for what they thought I meant. That’s just outrageous.

                  What I actually wrote was (1) a factual correction to some comment downplaying the scale of the jihadi terrorist problem a decade ago, and (2) the anodyne observation that we cannot just dismiss as illegitimate the concerns that voters have about the effects of immigration.

                  I don’t know why you’re so keen on sullying me, to the point of alleging that you’ve looked into this when you obvious haven’t. I’ll keep things civil and leave it there.

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    Great post. I’m frequently reminded that 40k people is so much more than it seems as I consistently encounter users who have been here and quite active for 3 years and yet I don’t recognize them.

    That ban from c/Europe is a badge of honor in my book. One of the nice things about the modlog is that anyone can quickly verify whether bans or comment removals are justified according to their own perspective. It shouldn’t always be as necessary as it currently is, but with people on Lemmy constantly throwing around accusations of bigotry, nazism, genocide denial, etc, its quite useful to be able to quickly view a user’s moderation history. Honestly that might be the most useful feature that Lemmy has, aside from the ability to federate.

    However, I do have one minor quibble with your post.

    for me this was quite a shocking confirmation of the intolerance of a certain section of the (mainly US) left.

    To ascribe your banning from a European community on a European server because of an opinion on a European situation to the US left is quite unreasonable. Also, the mod who banned you appears to be German. This is one of my pet peeves about Lemmy, that Americans always seem to take collateral damage in the most random threads lol. The Lemmy user base is significantly more international than the reddit user base in my experience, and thus the anti-American attitudes that seem quite common outside of the US are frequently exhibited here.

    I don’t know that there’s anything that can be done about it, but I do know that it’s unproductive to blame Americans from the outside looking in. I mean it’s unproductive to blame average people for the actions of their government anyway, but it’s especially annoying coming from people who don’t even live here and often lack a lot of context and empathy with their angry rants. None of this applies to you personally btw, but I’m just saying it for the record.

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      One of the nice things about the modlog is that anyone can quickly verify whether bans or comment removals are justified according to their own perspective.

      Not really. Most of the time it’s like "So-n-so got banned Reason: "

      So you click the context to see whats happened, and the thread is deleted. So you can’t even see what was said. You only see the topic title.

      Or if the whole thread isn’t deleted, you just see “Comment deleted by mod”.

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        But if the comment was removed, it usually has the transcribed comment directly above the ban reason in the modlog.

        However, you are right that the modlog is still very limited and could be much more functional. There are ways to remove posts and comments without them appearing in the modlog, usually by banning the account entirely with the content removal box checked. Then it will show the ban, but all of the removed content is simply gone. It’s a thorny problem to solve to be fair, because people have also used the modlog in an abusive manner, so it’s kinda important to have the ability to actually nuke really bad stuff without it reappearing in the modlog.

        Also if you try simply scrolling through the modlog it’s obvious that a bunch of stuff is randomly omitted and completely unclear why. It’s only really useful to check the histories of specific users or mods, because you can sort that way and everything for that particular user seems to come up properly.

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      Pushback accepted. You’re absolutely right, in the main case I mentioned the community was (technically) German and the mod was German.

      Alas, there were a bunch of other incidents on other communities that left a really bad taste in my mouth and in the end convinced me to avoid literally anything even slightly politics-adjacent on Lemmy. To be clear: I have totally mainstream political views, I don’t regret anything I wrote anywhere (I would have deleted it otherwise). Anyone is free to look it up and argue back if they (or I) can be bothered, but we all know that this is unlikely to be productive (to put it politely). The de-facto impossibility of genuine debate on anything even slightly controversial does feel like a serious failing of social media. Discovering all this up close has unfortunately been a part of my experience here.

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        Yes, and it’s not like the US far left isn’t extremely intolerant, that’s absolutely a true statement. But I feel similarly in terms of how I try to use Lemmy. It’s hard to gauge how much of the toxicity around political topics is exclusive to the Lemmy userbase, and how much is just an unavoidable failure of social media in general. Our specific flavor of extreme left wing toxicity is pretty shocking when you first encounter it, but it’s really no different than the more mainstream types of political toxicity you would encounter on reddit. Instead of worshiping Trump they worship Xi and Putin, but the unwarranted aggressiveness and complete detachment from reality is similar.

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    So a good time apart from the usual cestpools of life: political and news communities.

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    I’m eagerly looking forward to more silly, niche communities. Communities like /c/[email protected] & /c/[email protected] are wonderful examples of people providing genuinely human and silly fun content. It shows there’s an actual community, not just nerds advocating for Linux.

    I do find a few things annoying about the federation system, like opening links directly to lemmy.world on my desktop an having to surgically recreate the link on my instance if I want to interact with it at all. I figure it’s part of the growing pains and we will find interesting ways to solve it.

    Still, I feel so much better using this platform. I feel like contributing isn’t just padding the Reddit admin’s pockets and being used to fuel AI models. Y’all are a much more chill group anyway. I’ll keep posting my food here.

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      Communities like /c/[email protected] & /c/[email protected]

      The !communityname@instancename format works better, it’s more universal to other platforms/apps. [email protected] and [email protected]

      I do find a few things annoying about the federation system, like opening links directly to lemmy.world on my desktop an having to surgically recreate the link on my instance if I want to interact with it at all.

      You can copy paste the URL into you instance’s search box.

      But I do think we also need this feature https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy-ui/issues/2318

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          Fwiw, PieFed has had it for many months. It is not uncommon to wait for a feature for >5 years in Lemmy (like moderator reports federating between instances) so if it is truly “critical” for you, there is a way to get it right this instant. I don’t know of any PieFed instances in Sweden but there are some nearby.

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            I’m happy with my instance, with my admins and with my /local feed. And with Lemmy at large. It is not a feature that’s critical for me (I am unaffected as I only use my phone for Lemmy anyway).

            But thank you anyway!

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              Yes and having a /local feed might be even more critical for someone in a similar situation as you also! I am glad you have found a solution that works well for you:-).