Sometimes I hear the people upstairs and then I think. “Wait. Hold on. I don’t live in an apartment complex anymore. Wtf is in the attic”.
Flipping racoons.
Yiiikes, would’ve super scary if it were still people
Before I moved here , this house sat empty for about a year.
And the access to the attic is one of those ceiling ladders you have to pull down.
I waited a few weeks after moving here before having a peak.
I actually didn’t find any evidence of racoons but I do occasionally hear noises from there. And it’s weird, I’ve been here a year now but my first thought always is “must be upstairs neighbors”.
I’ve lived in apartments most of my life.
There is a window in the front of the house with these like vertical wooden shutter blinds. And then a metal screen. So it’s not a closed off window. It’s open all year.
I think what I’m actually hearing is the wind blowing stuff around in the attic. Which is full of stuff.
I’m not too concerned. It’s either wind or racoons or maybe a squirrel.
We got used to our upstairs neighbour’s loud snoring, so it was really weirs when she went on vacation, we couldn’t fall asleep. So many times we heard her wake up after we had sex…
You’ve just unlocked the Empathy skill tree, congrats!
I wish my neighbors acted like they knew other people lived here…
Too late, I think the entire neighborhood might already know us as “Oh, it’s THAT family that always have arguments in the house”
The thing is, we’re East Asian so this just further reinforce their “Asian strict parenting” stereotype in their minds 💀
(or perhaps nobody cares that much since they’ve already expected this much yelling due to that stereotype)
I started making more noise after my neighbors clearly did not realize that the quiet they enjoyed from my apartment was out of deliberate consideration on my part, and not a mutual experience. I started with normal sounds like coughing or laughing or playing some music, but after that didn’t work, I started to make noises they would be embarrassed to ask me about. It somewhat worked at reducing their noise levels. I knew they heard me because they stopped making eye contact. But they were also awful people so that was fine with me.
Thankfully they moved and I now have a quiet neighbor who gets to enjoy my silence. Occasionally they’ll get a little noise from me to remind them that the wall between my bedroom and their main room is very thin, but I haven’t had to escalate it like with the last people, for which I am grateful. My other neighbors are a very quiet elderly couple and I love them, but our shared wall is substantially thicker, which is partly why I love them.
I would never interpret an uptick in noise from my neighbors as a message. I’m autistic and very unperceptive in this dimension so it may well just be me, but I think I’d start worrying about someone if they told me they thought that their neighbor coughing or laughing more audibly than usual was an attempt at communication.
Even the other sounds… maybe you got a new sex toy or developed an embarrassing medical condition. I’d just assume you’re doing your thing, not trying to weird me out.
The message was just “you can hear me” which I hoped would then logically translate to “therefore I can also hear you”. The normal kinds of sound just didn’t get the message across for some reason so I added the awkward element - it allowed for longer sound duration than briefly coughing or laughing, and made it more difficult to ignore. I’m pretty sure they thought I was just doing my thing.
It’s definitely a very oblique and passive aggressive approach to the problem, but it worked well enough that I didn’t have to go for something more confrontational, which would have been the next step.
I would get that message, but I’d probably assume that if you’re living in a shared building, you’re cool with sounds of other people doing their thing, have coping mechanisms, or will speak to me/write me a note (could even be anonymous).
Now I just hope my neighbors are and have always been assertive/aggressive enough to spell it out. Except for the upstairs adult neighbors who rollerbladed back and forth on their tile floor for a couple hours a week to build proficiency. I do hope they were constantly annoyed.
They were the only neighbors I’ve ever had to do this with after many years of apartment living. I am fine with normal sounds, but their noise far exceeded normal constantly, and I have an expectation that shared living needs to come with a level of consideration for others. I know it wasn’t just my problem either, there were multiple complaints made to the property managers by other apartments, to no effect.
I chose this approach intentionally to avoid confrontation with obviously aggressive and unreasonable people. They had a reputation for regularly screaming obscenities at each other and anyone else who displeased them. Knowing the exact content of all their arguments, I knew that normal human interaction was likely to direct their aggressive behavior towards me, which would not achieve my goal of sleeping at night.
You know the walls are too thin when, after sex, you hear your neighbor light up.
She’s moaning. I’m groaning. Neighbor is coughing.
You know the walls are too thin when, after sex, you hear your neighbor light up.
I have a question about this conceot actually
So I grew up in terraced houses from the 1900s or earlier, stone walls. Unfortunately, i could hear my parents talking, arguing and boinking from my room - but the last one only seemed to be a thing when i was a teenager. I could also hear the old guy next door walking around, telephoning and opening drawers.
But i was lucky enough to only have single guys who lived alone either side of me the entire time. So I wonder: do most people in terraces and apartments have to hear their neighbours having sex? Is that like a normal part of childhood? Other kids seemed to know about sex before me so I figure that might be part of it.
Or did my childhood home just have bad acoustics + insulation?
I never really noticed, but I might have just been lucky. I heard sex in the same house, though. /shudder
SMELL you light up… and smile.
I hear my neighbors yell from time to time but our kids are like 2 weeks apart in age and… We get it. We don’t do it, but we totally get it. And they tell me they don’t hear me singing in a silly voice when they must certainly do, and is perhaps embarrassing on the other end of the spectrum, lol.
i remember living in the top floor of an apartment and the people below me were so loud sometimes. I never actually seen who they were but damned if I didn’t know names and how they stomped when they were upset
I remember living with a gf a long time ago. we were looking at new apartments and saw a review for our current one. this one review in particular mentioned our unit specifically and went something along these lines.
Place is great. pool is nice and clean, tenants are nice and mostly quiet and the rent is affordable.
to the couple in A1, everyone can hear you screaming. we get it. you like to fuck. also, please stop fucking in your living room with the blinds open, we can see you.
jokes on them, we were into that shit 🤣
Do you also play hide 'n seek by closing your eyes to hide?
Lol, I thought the walls were more noise-isolating…
unfortunately, Bose did not make these walls
Like I don’t hear neighbors often unless I really put my ears close to the wall outlet and hear their tv on the other side…
The only time I heard it when the parent was yelling at their kid next door…
