must be rich to eat there
And by home, he means Jim’s place 💝
And thats how Adam and Jim became best friends for the next 30 years.
They kidnapped each other.
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Beautiful. Go Niners
Sixty Niners.
“your location” ? how does she know his location ? is there an app to track people in realtime ?
You can live location share with google maps, you can do it for a set amount of time or until you turn it off again.
Wouldn’t be the weirdest thing for spouses to have it permanently turned on for each other.
Built into iOS. It’s called “Find my Friends”. You can (temporarily) share your location with other iOS users. For example, if you’re going to a festival with friends you can set it to share locations for the duration of the event so you can always see where they are. You an also choose to permanently share your location with family members.
I know tons of couples that use apps that let them look up each other’s location.
cheers okay, why not
Yes, the thing tracking and reporting your location at all times is called the wireless telephone network.
Some apps let you share what you’re already sharing with Palantir and ICE with your friends.
Those are two different things. Tracking the location via cell network just gives an approximate location, anywhere within the cell towers reception area. GPS data doesn’t get shared with anyone unless you choose to share it.
If companies want your GPS data then you have to share it with them.
Nah the new protocols like 5g use super sensitive time based encoding, the protocols wouldn’t work if the towers didn’t know your distance very accurately.
Way back in the day with actual cellular phones, yeah you could only be placed really accurately when you were in a cell overlap area.
Sure they do.
Don’t worry I’m not going to explain why that makes zero sense, you can keep wearing your fetching tin foil hat.
Thanks for noticing! I made it myself.
iphones let people share location with other iphones. I know some of friends that do. Google maps and Apple maps, and Whatsapp also have live location sharing (occasionally useful).
WA location sharing (at least on Android) sucks ass though. They haven’t properly implemented the notification Android requires apps to give for background location access, so it exclusively works if WA is running in the foreground. It just stops updating if the person sharing locks their phone or closes WhatsApp.
Google Maps sharing is much better it also allows you to select any time limit in 1 hour steps, or permanently (until it’s turned off again), instead of the WA presets of ¼, 1 or 8 hours.
alright cheers
Yes, multiple in fact.
Just super quick search for “app to track phone location” popped up 3 big ones.
Are people really this afraid of strangers? Last year I bought a bicycle from a woman, she sent me her address, I went there, it was just her and her baby waiting for me with the bicycle. Didn’t even kidnap her.
You got the baby though, right?
Didn’t even kidnap her.
And they say chivalry is dead.
Just left her there. Didn’t bring her home. I say chivalry is dead
Tap for spoiler
/s
Didn’t even bring her back to the keep so that my liege lord could sell her back for ransom. So much for chivalry.
We truly live in an unchivalrous society insert joker meme here
That seems kind of like the standard procedure around here (Germany) too. When you sell something online, the expectation is always that the buyer comes to the sellers house to pick up the item. I’ve never seen anyone do that “let’s meet at this random parking lot” thing americans tend to do.
The US is a lower trust society than most of Europe
Yep I get it, it’s a 3rd world thing. In my home country that’s what I’d do.
Well, what do you expect? It’s full of Americans.
That is sad. Openly showing trust to the people around you (even if you have to take the first step and give someone the benefit of the doubt) creates the safest, most pleasant communities. Plus it’s just a massive hassle and mental strain to distrust everyone all the time.
Indeed. The death of the local community will be the undoing of America
The police station in our town has a designated area for stuff like this. It’s lit and recorded 24/7. The police station itself is also open 24/7 for obvious reasons. It also shares the parking lot with city hall and a courthouse. Absolutely an American thing.
In the town I grew up in, the police station shared a parking lot with a Wawa.
People are shity sometimes. I’m one that goes to an address if that’s the expectation. But there are items I almost never sell in person from my home, electronics being one.
My mother had a garage sale (total American thing I’m sure) and was robbed a few weeks later by someone taking an unusual amount of time “shopping“ with her phone out. The gal was a fool, had recordings on her phone of her and the places she was going to rob with address. After a month or so of this, she was caught and her phone searched where they found 20+ videos of other houses where they looked at stuff that would make for easy theft from the garage.
Lessons here are you need to decide who do you let in your home and I know it’s a lot to do with culture. Europe has some social support in place, the USA just says good luck and fuck off.
Enjoy it man, that’s a privilege to have and it only takes 1 bad incident for it all to come crumbling down when the media blows it out of proportion and everyone goes on a witch hunt for minorities.
Pretty sure it takes a whole lot more than that.
You would think but wasn’t it in Germany that people went out attacking migrants in response to an incident where migrants were the perpetrators?
All I’m saying is that you assume people will respond logically like yourself but in reality that’s rarely the case.
Don’t you remember the turning point of the 2002 Hartford kidnapping that turned the US society from a tolerant and inclusive society to a racist and violent hell?
Umm yes, now that you mention it, that was exactly it! Everything before and everything after didn’t matter!
My wife occasionally agrees to meet people if they live on the other side of the county and it’s going to take them an hour to get to our house.
Usually people just come and pick up their items. We live suburbia though so maybe they feel “safer.”
they live on the other side of the county and it’s going to take them an hour to get to our house.
Every now and again I’m reminded just how small some countries are, I drive 45min to work every day and I’m only one town over, meanwhile in 15 more minutes you can be on “the other side” of a whole country?
Meanwhile the trip across the US with no stops and traffic will take me 1d 19hr for 2,544 mi (4094.171 km) (according to openstreetmaps).
Edit: LOL I can’t read. It’s still true I suppose just not in this case haha.
County, not country.
LOL in my defense I had just woken up and I guess I thought you lived in like Luxembourg or some shit.
Yeah fair that aforementioned work is in the next county over from me haha.
Didn’t kidnap her yet. Now you know her address for a later date, without the pretext to incriminate you! I’m onto you, pal
And she doesn’t have a bike to make a fast getaway!
But you did kidnap the baby
No, I wanted a bicycle, not a baby. Also kidnapping is kind of frowned upon in my culture.
No way, same thing in my culture, you from earth too??
You kidnapped the bicycle? You monster!
That’s why she brought her baby. No one is going to kidnap someone with a baby. To much hassle.
That’s why I always bring a puppy to kidnappings: to distract babies.
Which is why I, as a professional guard baby, always bring a tennis ball and a kitten to expected kidnappings: to distract puppies and to distract the kidnapper with “dad with the kitten he said he didn’t want” moments.
Also Zaphod didn’t want to mention it but the baby had a knife.
My neighbor was selling something, the person came over but either didn’t get it or saw something he liked became they came back and broke into their house to get it.
That is what the story is about, yes, women have a fear of harm from men. I assume you know why.
gestures at everything
Even the lamp. Fucking lamps…
Why even make a fucking lamp in the first place? Weren’t regular lamps good enough as they were?
You kids these days… back in my day, before leds, you would never even consider using a lamp for any kind of sexual act. Between the bulb melting your flesh, the risks of broken glass, and the risks of electrocution… Well it just wasn’t worth it.
well the led lamps are pretty handy butt flutes, but you don’t really care for music do ya?
Almost like women have different, valid, fears than men
Apparently women are.
Apparently
Is this surprising to you?
Is this normal that wife has a tracking gps on husband?
Well, they’re selling it to the advertisers, why not your wife too?
I used to think this was crazy but my skin is brown so I’ve had to let my partner have my location so they can track me in case I get got by ICE.
Sort of? If you are in a trusting relationship who cares? It’s simply convenient to check where your spouse or kids are without having to wait for a response.
The only reason me and my wife don’t do it is because we don’t trust the apps not to scoop up our location data and sell it to everyone.
Doesn’t leaving location on drain phone battery at a higher rate?
Not really. Your phone is already doing location checks every few minutes for a variety of reasons, so it doesn’t really affect it unless you have rooted your phone and hunted down all the little bullshit things that trigger location checks.
You know you can just turn off location services right? Pretty sure even iPhone has the option
You can turn off higher level location services at the OS level, but at the radio level the cellular network will always need a precise enough location to handle tower handoffs and timing issues between the tower and phone, as well as modern beam forming techniques where the tower “aims” the signal at the phone. The simple act of the phone communicating with a specific tower tells the phone where it is (sometimes with surprisingly high precision).
911/emergency services also use more low level location techniques, but I’m pretty sure those functions don’t get called unless you dial an emergency number.
You’re getting way too far in the weeds on this, man. They’re asking if you can turn off GPS to save battery
I’m giving some reasons why turning on or off location services at the OS level doesn’t appreciably change battery life.
not really a problem on modern phones. i got a fairphone 6 and my phone lasts the whole day with Bluetooth, GPS, NFC and whatnot all active
Yes, kinda. But that’s what chargers are for. ☺️
Pretty much. It’s great as I get an alert when she’s 5 mins from home so I can peel myself off the sofa before she’s back and look productive.
Mine does, but that only started after a severe hypoglycemic incident during which I have no memory of about 2 hours, drove about ten miles, wrecked my card, and was found on a sidewalk. EMT report says my sugar was unmeasurably low and it took an IV and peak gel to get it up to 35., which is where it was when my memory comes back coherently. First thing I remember at that point was the sting of the IV in my arm and then my finger, seeing the 35, the EMT noticing I was looking at him and getting a battery of general awareness questions.
So just cause I can’t tell this story very often. One time when I was hit in the head particularly hard in middle school when the teachers were trying to give general awareness questions one of the ones I was close to asked “Tell me about the Mycenaean Greece” because he knew I can unironically bullshit those questions in my actual sleep. So I rant for about 5 minutes look at my hands say give me a few and proceed to zone the fuck out for about 10 minutes before growling out “Aight and we’re back” which is around when I actually have memories of the incident.
According to one of the security guys who basically had the job of keeping us from making chemical weapons in the toilet again, it was probably the most bizarre thing he had seen since Iraq. He was an Army medic veteran.
I would ask about the “again” on the chemical weapons in the toilet thing, but I was the kid that played with low grade explosives and chemistry “projects” at that age. Got annoyed when my homemade napalm was caustic enough it started to eat through the container I’d made it in.
The actual story is that a couple of guys broke into a cleaning locker that was in the bathroom (school was old had weird set up) wherein some of the dumber smart guys decided to mix ammonia and bleach in a toilet. Funny enough I was the source of that problem and also how it was noticed because I spread the knowledge of that particular bit of chemistry, and was laughing my ass off at the fact that the toilet was at that point actively hazard due to mustard gas.
Yeah, my wife would turn it on when she’s in an “uncertain” neighbourhood.
I just got a new iPhone. It offers the option during setup, to leave your location on for your designated family. I left the box checked yes because it was the default and I had no strong feelings about it.
I feel like we need to apologize to women for existing.
Are we really that bad?
In general, no. But there are enough of a minority of fuckwits to ruin it for everyone else.
All it takes is one bad apple to spoil the barrel.
Every woman I know who hates men has at least one damn good reason to do so.
Yeah, we are. My very existence makes women around me miserable
I started wiping and it has made a big difference for me in that department, despite my initial skepticism to the advice
Sorry, I’m not American. I don’t get the wiping joke.
The tragedy that is that in order to reliably sell something on the internet you have to draw in a bear from the woods.
Or beer* in this case
…I have to say, “beer from the woods” sounds a lot better than I’d’ve thought.
The tragedy here is that so many women are terrified of unknown men. A real culture of fear we’ve got going, which serves to isolate almost everybody.
I’m not completely naive - I know this stuff does happen - but the chances of being kidnapped are far lower than, say, being in a road traffic accident, and yet billions of people drive daily without a second thought, without fear, just assuming everything will be fine.
It hits different after your tits get groped in a crowd and the guy just looks at you like he had the right to.
Get treated like a piece of meat* by a couple of men, see that there’s no policing by the other men around, and those hungry looks suddenly are less flattering and more frightening.
- (without going through a proper consent and safety process, no shaming free-use here)
Men also get sexually assaulted by women, ofc, and that sucks for them because the default reaction is to laugh at the guy it happened to and to say sth like “I wish that would happen to me”.
I had had some really unpleasant experiences with extremely selfish guys in the sack and had pretty much decided to go full Lesbian Escape Hatch, but one of my friends sent her absolute sweetheart of a boyfriend over to show me what a gentle guy is like and I am giving dating men another try.
If you’re a dude and you wish more women trusted men, when you see your boy grope someone, police his ass right there.
Lots of comments here are “you’re not gonna get kidnapped/raped at the stadium what are you worried about?”
SA can be damaging without it being “legitimate rape” or whatever the fuck people are calling the thing that they feel entitled to go right up to.
A fun probability fact I like is around the question “what is the likelihood of consuming any given water molecule twice?”, so like, consuming that water molecule, then excreting it somehow (sweating, urine etc.), and then consuming that same molecule again. The probability of that happening for a given molecule is so ridiculously small that it’s basically zero.
However, the probability of that having happened at least once in an adult’s life is effectively 1, — i.e. it’s almost certainly happened. This is because one cup of water contains around 144,531,378,240,000,000,000,000,000 molecules of water, so we get a lot of chances to consume a water molecule twice.
The chances of being kidnapped or otherwise assaulted or harassed is quite low for any given interaction, but despite this, it’s something that a concerningly high proportion of women have experienced. I think for most women, it’s not a case of literally being terrified, but more than we take a wide variety of steps to reduce our risk, given that it is neither possible nor desirable to isolate oneself from every man who could possibly assault them. It’s no different to how people of all genders will often do things like taking a slighter longer, well lit route, or refraining from listening to music through headphones when walking through a city at night.
If I had a husband or partner who was available to go pick up something on my behalf, then that’s a straightforward and trivially easy thing I can do to reduce the amount of unnecessary risk I’d be exposing myself to. If that wasn’t something that was available, it wouldn’t necessarily mean I wouldn’t pick up the item myself, but I would be a bit more cautious.
The culture of fear you describe does feed into how individual women perceive and manage risk associated with unknown men, but it’s also important to realise that that culture of fear exists in large part because of the direct lived experience of women who have learned that these kinds of precautions are necessary. For my part, whilst I’ve never been assaulted when picking up items from online sales, I have had a few instances of men being extremely creepy in a way that made me regret not being more careful. I had to change my phone number once because an Uber driver kept sending me dick pics, and a friend once had to get a restraining order against a delivery driver who kept coming back to her home and lurking outside her window. It’s only a small minority of men who do these things, but because our daily lives expose us to so many people, then it ends up being a very rational choice to take precautions to protect ourselves.
Edit: my comment cast a wider net than just “risk of being kidnapped”, because that felt to me like a hyperbolic euphemism designed to avoid saying the much more likely forms of harm that women face from predatory men. However, I want to add that the number of traffic accidents I’ve been involved in is non-zero, and equal to the number of times that an unknown man has attempted to kidnap me.
whilst I’ve never been assaulted when picking up items from online sales, I have had a few instances of men being extremely creepy in a way that made me regret not being more careful.
I think this behavior is a big contributor to the culture of fear. Even if nearly every man won’t assault a woman, enough of them do shit like this that it’s not hard to believe they’d do something worse.
I was going to type something but it would never be so elaborate and accurate as yours! Its not just about the worst case, but high probabilities for a lot of potential problems.
Also, Bear Grylls consumed the same water molecule twice.
Bear Grylls
Lmao
it’s harder to unionize if you’re afraid of your neighbours
I do wonder if the proliferation of True Crime podcasts is, possibly, down to shadowy funding of some sort.
I don’t listen to them anymore myself, not because they’re not gripping, because a lot of them really are, but because it effectively turns victims of horrible crimes into profitable entertainment, and I don’t want to be a party to that.
(I wish I was smart enough I’d come to that conclusion myself, but no - it was other podcasts and an episode of Black Mirror that pointed that out to me)
Going to disagree with the responses you have so far. You need to consider both the cost and benefit of taking precautions. The cost of sending someone else in your place is low. The benefit is that you negate that small chance of getting assaulted. The cost of not driving in a car-centric society? It’s way higher. It could mean not being able to go to the store to buy groceries, or not being able to get a job. For most people, that cost is much higher compared to the chance of dying in a car crash.
Very good point
Thing is ill take a risk of being in a fender bender because I will most likely live and not get raped
That being said I combat it by picking things up in a public place or bringing my husband with me
According to OurWorldInData, a person is almost three times more likely to be killed in a car accident than in a homicide by another person. (5.8 homicides per 100k people vs. 16.7 car deaths per 100k per year)
In comparison, non-homicide rapes are… 37.5 per 100k people (oof, much worse that I expected). However, most sources I can find seem to indicate a fairly small percentage of rapes are committed by strangers not known to the victim (A Better Way states it’s 28%). If we take that into account and apply it to the OurWorldInData numbers, it comes out to 10.5 people per 100k are victims of rape by total strangers.
That doesn’t account for the fact that many rapes are not reported, and the risk of rape can vary wildly between different states (holy shit is Alaska rape-y) so the real risk is probably a bit higher than my numbers in most areas, and lower in others.
That wasn’t the result I was expecting when I started writing this comment. I guess in conclusion, people are way more likely to be killed in a car accident than some rando murdering them, but depending on where they live, death by driving may be more or less likely than being raped by a stranger. So uh… Yeah. Not great.
I think that’s a good way to put it. You can’t do much about someone else crashing into you (Unless your husband is Mr Incredible), but you can do a whole lot more when selling/buying something to/from a stranger to avoid that turning nasty.
Exactly. I really dont think people shoule be criticized for taking a reasonable precaution yknow
Genuine question here, am not trying to be edgy or controversial: Which would you least like to happen - be raped, or lose the use of a limb in a road accident?
As a cishet man, I’d take the former (assuming no HIV etc)
Have you been sexually assaulted?
If not, consider that it can FUCK YOU UP mentally and is not over for the victim when your rapist zips up and walks away into the embrace of societal protection.
I have not, and I’ve got the privilege that I can walk the streets at night without the fear of it even crossing my mind.
I do have a vague fear of getting mugged or beaten up, and even the threat of the latter played on my mind almost daily for about a year after it happened, so I’d imagine it (or SA) actually happening to me would last a fair bit longer and the intrusive memories be even more intensely horrible
“(assuming no HIV etc)”
That’s not a safe assumption though, and the dread of waiting to find out whether you’ve been infected with something awful is a part of why rape is so traumatising. It can take weeks for tests to come back.
Of course not - this is very much hypothetical. I’m more interested in whether people think emotional/psychological trauma would be worse than lifelong physical trauma
My point is that the whole psychological Vs physical trauma question is a false dichotomy when we’re talking about sexual assault. Rape can and often does leave a person with lifelong physical trauma
I don’t think that’s really a fair question especially since a vehicle accident is just that: an accident. Being raped is horrifying partially because it’s someone’s choice to do that to you.
Would I prefer to be accidentally injured over being intentionally traumatized and possibly also injured? Yeah, probably.
Additionally, i dont think my main point is clear but ill clarify: I really don’t think people deserve criticism about being afraid when they’re just taking reasonable precautions. Especially in a society that is just not likely to hold a man accountable for sexual misconduct.
A more comparable question is would you rather lose the use of a limb from an accident or have to go under vaginal reconstruction to restore use of urinary function after rape.
I know which is more traumatic. People act like being raped comes with no consequences.
Yup. A friend of mine almost died last year from bladder complications that ultimately stem from being assaulted almost 20 years ago.
To an external observer, rape may not seem likely to leave lasting physical trauma, but that’s because the injuries aren’t as likely to be visible, or things that peopl feel comfortable speaking about openly (plus society has a bad track record on how it treats survivors of SA)
Yeah, the US got a lot of hubris talking about how other countries are dangerous, and then I see posts like this every month.
It’s more than the probability, it’s the level of harm. It’s similar to how we protect our kids from paedos with a high degree of safety even though the risk is really low. It’s because the harm from a paedo is fucking huge. The harm a man can do to a woman is fucking huge, life shattering, soul destroying. Women go to lengths to avoid that because it does happen and it’s impossible to know when, where, who. The only truth we have is that it is a possibility now, here, with this stranger.
Do you you think death… Isn’t all of that? People die or are paralyzed in car accidents.
I’m with op, the risk analysis and responses of society are so batshit insane to me. Absolutely petrified of shit that never/rarely happens, completely ignoring the things actively and currently killing them.
What makes you think we don’t take as many reasonable precautions on the road too?
You’re right that car accidents happen pretty frequently, and carry a high risk of lasting harm to those involved. This is why people have to pass a test in order to be allowed to drive, are legally required to have insurance, why speed limits and other road safety features exist, and why one of the roles of the police is to monitor and respond to dangerous drivers. Despite all these measures, road traffic accidents happen all the time, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do these things to try to reduce the likelihood and severity of car accidents. None of these precautions are airtight, but they do reduce the risk that road users face. We don’t ignore the risks of car accidents, we just do what we can to mitigate those risks and get on with our lives as best we can.
That’s how things are for the majority of women. Most of us are far from petrified of unknown men, we have just learned that there are things we can do to reduce the risk of us being harassed or assaulted — many of which don’t take much additional effort and are entirely reasonable precautions to take. Having to do these things is just a background annoyance for most women, because it sure would be nice if we didn’t have to spend time or energy of these things, but most of us have enough lived experience with having to interact with predatory men that it would be irrational not to take precautions.
There certainly are some women who do feel a much higher level of fear, but this is often associated with specific trauma, and is no different to how someone who had been in a bad car accident may feel uneasy driving at first. Risk exists everywhere, and learning what precautions you can easily take to reduce risk, and incorporating them into our lives isn’t us being controlled by fear, but quite the opposite. It can become harmful if it dominates too much of our thinking, but dynamically responding to mitigate risks is something that we all do, every day, to keep ourselves safe and well.
Women get raped all the fucking time, dude
I didn’t intend to say they don’t. Just that random strangers don’t usually do it.
Not to mention that rape by a stranger is literally the rarest type of rape, re relationship to the victim.
Never/rarely happens? 1 in 5 women have been raped and we think those numbers are conservative due to self reporting issues.
How is that rare?
How many of those were by a random stranger though? I am not saying to be careless or that shit never happens to women. I’m just saying that people fixate on the rare things while not being careful around the common things.
know this stuff does happen - but the chances of being kidnapped are far lower than, say, being in a road traffic accident,
And the chances of getting raped are far higher than an adult being kidnapped by a fucking stranger. What a weird metric to use.
Kidnap was what the meme said
The chances are low, yes, but the potential consequences could make life not worth living.
The classic analogy is the jar of 100 sweets. If I offered you a sweet from a jar of 100, and warned you that one of the sweets in the jar was laced with strychnine, would you take one?The classic analogy is the jar of 100 sweets.
Classic, but deeply flawed.
This is literally the same way white supremacists ‘justify’ being distrustful/suspicious of black people in general.
The mental stress that this level of paranoia inflicts on you is likely going to be more harmful on average.
You’re best off overall if you take reasonable precautions (having a small weapon/pepper spray), and just go about your day without stressing about it all the time.
One in a hundred? No, of course not. One in five million? Actually, still no, because I don’t like sweets very much. But lets replace the sweets with 20oz wagyu steaks… and yes, I think I would!
Same with traffic incident tho.
Good point. There are some risks we just accept as a society.
Lol, well I probably would because I don’t know what that is. And it sounds like an artificial sweetener.
But I get your point. Humans aren’t good at feeling out chronic ‘mundane risk’ and significantly deemphasise it in favour if acute, ‘dramatic risk’.
Much as how 9/11s death toll permanently transformed America politically and culturally on multiple levels, whereas the severity of far greater numbers of vehicular (or firearm) deaths are accepted as unavoidable facts of life.
Some profoundly shitty dudes in these comments.
Funny meme, depressing thread for Lemmy.
Hey, wait a minute! Buyer lady was afraid the seller lady would turn out to be a lad, so she sent a lad in her place? What did she think would happen if seller lady actually showed up and got jump-scared by this buyer lad instead? She’s lucky both these lads got along, because either of them could have decided to call off the deal and go home when they saw the terms were violated.
Having sold a few things online, it’s fairly common for one person to chat online and another to have over/receive the money. The person chatting is the person who is most interested in the item; the person handing over is the person who has the time on the day.
I would assume that neither seller or buyer specified gender for the trade. I also don’t think that having another gender than expected counts as violation of terms.
Because she knew she could trust this man, she didn’t know if she could trust the stranger. She was minimizing chance of harm… Her husband isn’t going to harm the seller, that’s her bet that she knows better than whether the seller will harm her.
Could be they didn’t know who was selling it. I’ve done some anonymous stuff like that, where I just showed up without knowing who was there to give the thing. Or if they saw a dude there they just asked about it instead of going full on abort mission abort mission lol
If it was a bear selling that lamp, none of this would have been necessary.
*Rolls dice, and passes a perception check*
Hey wait a minute… you’re not some lady’s husband - y-you’re a BEAR!
But then the bear would still have to be afraid of honeypots
I also choose the gay bear
Hello.
But what if it’s actually a man pretending to be a bear?
This is honestly so heartwarming. Adult dudes have such a hard time meeting other guys, this actually makes me happy seeing two dudes just meet and say hello
I met a fellow in my neighborhood by happenstance. We happened to be crazy similar. He was really cool.
I felt bad not really getting around to checking in on him more often. I was shy and afraid of what I didn’t know, or making a fool of myself. But damnit he was a really cool guy…
Occasionally I’d catch him with his garage door open and we’d have a chat. (You gotta understand, nobody interacts in this neighborhood.) We met because I was out running in the rain like a crazy guy (we rarely get rain lol) and HE decided to introduce himself to me as I ran by his house LOL.
So anyway…I saw he hadn’t responded to my Merry Christmas text.
…And just a week ago or so I got a text from his wife that he had passed away from an aneurysm 4 months prior.
When I brought her flowers for him, she told me he had said that he thought. . .that I was very cool. . .
Why I’m sharing this:
I know it’s awkward sometimes trying to make new friends as an adult, but also it’s foolish to simply assume tomorrow is guaranteed. Do that hangout. Plan the game night. Talk about random stuff in the backyard. Whatever.
You will never regret more time spent in fellowship and good company.
I would have been a really good friend to him if I just reached out more…
The loneliness epidemic is absolutely real, and this isolating society is killing us all by design and it breaks my heart.
That is all.
Thanks for sharing that story, we should all try to get to know our neighbours a bit Better.
The real story is the women setting up their husbands with each other 🥰
When two straight couples become two gay couples. Tale as old as time.
Two males have any sort of positive interaction with each other
Weirdos: Wow so GAYSaying it in a positive way doesn’t really make it better. Normalize men being able to enjoy each other’s company without assuming they’re falling in love or lusting after each other, sheesh.
Normalize men catching all kinds of feelings for one another.
it is normal, I just think its funny to suggest a romantic plot between the women to setup their husbands with each other
Agreed
But dude should check in with his wife if he’s just gonna not come home suddenly
Wife was already stalking his location, is fine
Plot twist, he was the kidnapping target and he never returned from that bar
Jim and Adam now live near Seattle and adopted a dog.
Hey, wanna hang out?
Do you have hotwings?
You’ll have to tell me how hot these wings are.
Bird wings are hotter than bat wings, IMO.
uwu
Ngl I remember even highschool being a hell for making friends because there was this 70% they will turn out to be andrew tate fans after.
I still don’t understand sports fans and how they interact with each other. I just buy my thing and leave, maybe talk for a bit if its an item that would imply same hobbies or something but I the only place I’ve had drinks with randos is at a vegas card table and even that was uncomfortable.
“Hey, wife sent me, you have some ‘lamp’ I think?”
“Yeah wife sent me, she said this is the lamp.”
“Lol wives amirite?”
“Yeah lol, and right when I’m trying to watch the damn Hawks game today!”
“Oh Hawks fan huh? I want to watch that game too, wanna hit a sports bar and grab a few brews over it?”
“Yeah let’s go, got a B-Dubz down the road.”
End scene.
followed by a cinematic sex scene wrapped up with a lamp cut and this guy flopping around it?
I still don’t understand sports fans and how they interact with each other.
“Did you see that ludicrous display last night?”
The thing about Arsenal is, they always try to walk it in!
How do you have a football site and NOT list the NFL or college teams as an option? I do t recognize any of the leagues on that list.
Because the rest of the world insists, wrongly, on calling soccer football, and handegg “american football,” even though that’s an emo band and not a sport. Also probably because the original joke from the IT Crowd was about soccer.
imply same hobbies or something
They’re both into the same team so probably wearing a Jersey or something for game day. Something to talk about. The situation with the spouses was also an easy ice breaker.
Kind of rude of the wife’s to send them out when the game is going to be on.
Probably had time to do it before it
